I've been with my BF for almost a year...lemme make it quick...
my parents hate him
hes toooooo clingy
half of me wants him and half of me doesnt...
i think i mite like a guy but theyre friends and i dont want him beat up...lol
i cheated on him the 1st month...dont ask PLEASE
he cheated on me with my best friend to get "revenge" on me about 3 monthes later....
i dono...theres alot of pros and cons...i love him and all but i dont know if i should keep lookin hence that i am pretty young for my age and SHOULD be lookin round...
2006-10-24 10:31:10 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, you should dump him because you were never serious to begin with. Its better off this way, you did it to him and he did it to you...what else? Just stick with the friendship if thats what you have left.
2006-10-24 10:33:44 · answer #1 · answered by ♪♫♫♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're young, so let go of this guy and live your life.
You say you love him but you could possibly just believe it's love when in reality it's all you've ever had so you only consider it love because you've had nothing better.
Both of you cheated on eachother which shows lack of respect in the relationships. I'm not saying you're a horrible person for cheating but if he wanted to really be with you, he wouldn't have seeked revenge, he would've spoke to you about it. It's a little thing called communicatioon, he should've used that and then came to an agreement and a trust with you.
Your parents don't like him. I know it's not a really good reason to leave him because sometimes parents can just be too judgmental and overprotective but it just puts fuel to the fire. They won't want him around and they won't want you around him. Also, a clingy boyfriend is never a good sign. It's only the beginning of a stressful obsession.
Get out of the relationship now and live your life. You're young so you have time to settle down and find the right one when you're older. Until then, enjoy other aspects of life and love.
2006-10-24 17:35:36 · answer #2 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you can have any of these thoughts about your boyfriend you outght to not be with him.
Clingy can also be dangerous at times. It is not normal for a guy at such a young age to be clingy... If your parents hate him (I have gone through it) the chances of it actually working are about .5%. The only way you could make it work with your parents hating him would be to move out, which would be hell at that age.
If half of you doesn't want him, it is unfair to keep him hanging aruond with someone who cannot return the feelings that he obvoiusly has for you.
If you think you might like a guy, once again, it is unfair for him to be waiting around and giving you these feelings that you obvoiusly don't have in return because you like another guy.
People who love eachother don't cheat...it is understandable maybe if you do it in the 1st couple months, but it is apparent that he is just immature to "get revenge".
Someone who is clingy to you, will not last. He will end up getting majorly hurt if you only half like him right now...Because if you stay with someone that is clingy, you will eventually not like him more than you like him.
End it now...Have fun! Be a kid. Shop around! lol
2006-10-24 17:38:02 · answer #3 · answered by GirlInMassachusettTOWN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships like this usually happen when you are younger.
Are you happy overall in this relationship? It doesn't sound like you are. If you aren't happy, you are selling yourself short. I learned by getting very sick at a young age that life is too short to waste with people who make you unhappy. The result: I am in a loving 5 year relationship with someone who loves me and who almost knows me better than I know myself. When I stopped settling for "good enough" I found true happiness.
Also, something to consider: he sounds very insecure. Does he keep harping on you cheating and watch your every move? Anything he does now he'll be doing years from now. And do you think the "revenge cheating" (he obviously doesn't care about your relationships with your friends) will be ever forgotten by you, either? This is your future and your life...you have the power to make it happy or chaotic.
2006-10-24 17:42:49 · answer #4 · answered by vp33333 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu answered your own question, In your heart you know what you really want. Date other people, you say you are young, why bother being with some one if you have the desire to be with someone else. THe best advice I can give you Is to practise safe sex and have fun!
2006-10-24 17:35:05 · answer #5 · answered by vanessamustteach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he damn sure doesn't sound like a considerate gentleman. I'm failing to see any of the 'pros' other than you've managed to love him despite the faults.
2006-10-24 17:34:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know that part of you that doesn't want to break up with him probly is that part of you that's scared of change.
I say move on, or done it down by just being friends for a while.
2006-10-24 17:35:52 · answer #7 · answered by Gabri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are ready to move on. he's become "comfortable", and it's easy to stay in the situation. no long term relationship will come out of a cheating relationship.,
2006-10-24 17:36:07 · answer #8 · answered by Kelly T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look im 14 to,and i do know if some girl cheated on me i would kick her *** , and dont care there athoers.
IF i was him , and i cheated i would like to break up with u!
2006-10-25 04:20:35 · answer #9 · answered by Zeus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u seem like u dislike him and u sound unhappy. i would break up with him. just do what makes u happy. (ur next question may be *how to tell a guy u dont like him*
2006-10-24 17:39:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋