When we are together he shows interest, and he will call me out of the blue (but obciously that can be for a booty call, no I have not slept with him) but the problem is, he wont call me for months at a time, its like he just randomly gets up the courage to call, and than loses five freakin seconds later..... He is much older than me, I am 19, almost 20.... and he is well... lets just say, old enought o have kids of his own (which he doesnt) is he not interested or is he scared about the age dif?
You opinions much obliged.
2006-10-24 10:17:09 · 18 answers · asked by Indiana Jonas 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
girl it sounds like u are just a booty call and i think that he is just not that into u...sorry!
2006-10-24 10:19:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
This is a tough question, first of all sit down and look at everything. He is whatever age he is not married doesn't have kids, doesn't have a steady girlfriend. I would say he is the type of guy out for a booty call and not a relationship. I am telling you this from personal experience. I was 18 and with a guy old enough that he should be married or something, but he wasn't and I just thought that he hadn't found the right person. Well things hit off real well we were suppose to be a couple, the only thing is he would go away for days at a time sometimes even a week and I would't hear from him or know what he was doing or anything. Well the whole time he was gone he was out with other chicks. The only time he ever came around me was when he needed a place to sleep for a couple of nights or a booty call and our relationship went like this for 8 months until he asked me to marry him then moved out of state without me even knowing. That is when I realized I was nothing to him but a booty call. I think it is the same with you. If I was you I would find someone who can be true to you and who can make a commitment to you and only you, because I can bet if you ever got a chance to check this guys wallet there would be more than just your number in there. Oh ya I am the same age as you 19 going on 20 and I already had this happen.
2006-10-24 17:29:01 · answer #2 · answered by Esther V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was closer to your age I'd say he probably just sees you as a friend. But when it comes to an older guy there is always an ulterior motive. He may not like you a lot but when nothing else is going on he may call you or when he's looking for some booty. He doesn't sound trustworthy don't give him any and try to just be friends or nothing at all. Believe me he is not afraid of anything he is playing you. Maybe he's married and trying to keep it a secret from you and can only call you when the wife isn't around.
2006-10-24 18:14:24 · answer #3 · answered by Janet lw 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a convenience to him. He calls you only when it suits him which may not be for months. It is clear you are not the main focus of his attention so why put yourself through it by hoping it to be something that it isn't? The age factor is irrelevent. I think your second thought is probably closer the mark.
Whilever you hang on to the hope about this guy, it will prevent you from finding someone who is "more into you".
Time to move on for your own benefit.
2006-10-24 17:27:05 · answer #4 · answered by Pseudo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doubt if it's either of the things you suggest. That's really confusing behavior. Have you asked him? Here's the problem: You aren't good enough, pretty enough, dedicated enough to change his behavior even if you know why. There are a lot of possible explanations, none of them include cherishing you the way a man in a couple ought to do.
2006-10-24 17:38:45 · answer #5 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he does not call you for months at a time, it is because he is not interested in you. If there was something there inside of him, he would have to call you and find it out to the end.
2006-10-24 17:24:00 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then he does... ( have kids of his own ) His ole lady is out at the gym or something and he seems to need a phone booty call.. Back off this one..
2006-10-24 17:20:06 · answer #7 · answered by IOU101 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion i would say he's probably afraid of your daddy and his shotgun
i have seen alot of my older( i mean in their thirties) date people in thier twenties and get married it all depends on circumstance
i have met girls....well ladies(before i met my girlfriend.) that i talked to and it always came down to one thing. what is this attractive older person with things going on for her doing out messing around with us young folks. she ought to be married up and taken care of by some old rich guy.
sometimes there are things that just don't add up about people. those are the people to stay away from.
in my case turns out she had kids she didn't get to see and didn't tell me about.( i was under the impression that she didn't have any) she owed people money(not banks but people who get their money back if you know what i'm sayin). and she was living with her parents.
i'm sure it';s different for you though you seem nice enough and smart enough to not find yourself in my situation
2006-10-24 17:44:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if hes that old i think its not the being scared of a relationship. he probably is undergoing some internal conflict about the age difference. im sure he does actually like you if he calls, but try to turn up the 'flirtaciousness' when you talk to him again
2006-10-24 17:21:27 · answer #9 · answered by moodybooty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Apparently, you're there to answer every time. He's probably interested in you. He could be really shy, which would explain him being as old as he is and not having kids of his own.
2006-10-24 17:23:11 · answer #10 · answered by -J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not that into you. You want to believe he's scared and you want to believe that he "is getting the courage to call you", but that's not the case. He simply doesn't like you enough to call you on a regular.
2006-10-24 17:21:49 · answer #11 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋