There this guy that I've known since I was 7 years old, and we have always been interested in each other. We did break up and had our on and offs. We would always end up getting with some one else. Until today were still talking, and he is coming from the army in two weeks, and he always mentions to me that he wants to ask me to marry him when he comes back, which I'm quite nervous about, becasur I don't really feel that I'm ready to get married. I am only 19. Then he said that I never called him and that I always make our conversation short on the phone. After he finished arguing about all these little things, he told me that he was going to call me the next day, and that if I didn't answer that he was going to delete my number on his phone, and he did not call.. What do you think about this?
2006-10-24 10:06:40 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For a guy who says he wants to marry you, he sure doesn't sound very committed. He isn't even in a real relationship with you and he's already issuing ultimatums. It sounds like he doesn't have the emotional maturity to be involved in a serious relationship, and the fact that you always end up with other people should tell you something.
You're very young and although you're technically considered an adult, you have a few years of growing up to do. (Trust me..I married when I was 19, and I totally should have waited. Experience does indeed bring wisdom). You have every reason to be nervous about making a decision like that--especially a decision that affects your entire future.
This guy is trying to control you, and I don't think you should cave in, because if he's already trying to throw his weight around, it'll only get worse once you're wed. And once guys like that know they can do that and that you'll let them, you become their doormat. And really, who needs that?
Find someone who'll be patient and caring and everything you deserve. Let him go grow up on his own.
2006-10-24 10:13:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all if you dont want to get married, you shouldnt because its a huge commitment and its a bad idea to go into something that big if youre not sure. Plus, youre 19! Enjoy yourself right now, no need to settle down yet. You have your whole life ahead of you to get married and start a family. And about the whole not calling you thing, he might just be frustrated. I say call him and tell him that you do care about him and when you make conversations short, you dont mean it in a bad way, but you know he wants to get married and youre just not ready. And tell him if he's going to pressure marriage on you, its not worth it. Because you know its not. If he keeps pressuring you, he's not really thinking about your feelings. Good luck = ]
2006-10-24 10:13:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's manipulating you and playing mind games because you are probably a combination of gullible and slightly immature. These are not insults to you, just be aware that while it's nice to have someone take interest in you, this guy's being a jerk. Just stop all conversation with him for now and if he tries to find out what you're doing, just say "Look buddy, I'm tired of your little run around game. I'll call you if I'm interested in a relationship but don't hold your breath!"
2006-10-24 10:13:12 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should get married! Of course, you should get pregnant first!! Afterwards, start abusing drugs and alcohol. After the baby is born divorce him and spend a lot of money in divorce court. Next, you should shack up with as many men as possible so they can abuse your child. After all, your child will mean the world to you, right? You should also apply for welfare. They just give money away to little baby factory turds like you.
2006-10-24 10:13:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many guys marry girls when they're in the army because they get more money and a better GI Bill. You dont seem to love him, so let him erase your number. You're still young... There will be 10000 other men!!! Dont rush into a marriage.
2006-10-24 10:11:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he wants action or you are gone. You are young, so it is your choice. If you do not feel ready, do not let someone pressure you into such a LARGE commitment. The rest of your life is a LONG time! Tell him how you feel, and maybe, he will wait until you are ready if you honesty feel like marrying him. It sounds to me like he just wants some sex, but I could be wrong. Anyways....
2006-10-24 10:10:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he loves you. I know where you're coming from about not wanting to get married. I think when he comes home you should talk to him. If you honestly have no interest in him, tell him. So he can get on with his life. If you want to be with him, tell him he's moving too fast for you. My bf is on Camp Lejeune, and gets home Friday. I'm 19, and I can't wait.
2006-10-24 11:09:10 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you guys have been friends for so long, why do you give him the cold shoulder. I think at 19 you are still going on this emotional roller coaster. I think you should try to spend more time together and talk about all the issues. COMMUNICATE!!!
2006-10-24 10:11:24 · answer #8 · answered by freeme529 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he does not know what he wants if he cannot even follow through with calling you back like he said he would.
2006-10-24 10:09:56 · answer #9 · answered by Binky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he wanted you then to have someone to talk to now that he's comming home maybe he's looking for a reason to dump you I hope not .All you can do is talk to him and tell him to be honest with you
2006-10-24 10:12:03 · answer #10 · answered by steffi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋