Do you really love them or is that just what you say to hold on to a good thing? When you are cheating, do you really believe that having sex (any type) with someone else has nothing to do with how much you love your partner? Should it be different if you are cheating with someone who is a different sex from your partner? (heterosexual couple, man cheats with another man?) How do you plan on rebuilding the trust if your partner/wife forgives you and stays? Are you willing to do whatever she needs you to do, in order to try to trust you again? If she forgives you once, do you now think lose respect for her and figure she'll put up with it again?
2006-10-24 10:03:40 · 13 answers · asked by Lived Life 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Although all of the answers so far have been very interesting to read..... I would still like to hear from, just one guy, who has cheated and actually has the ball's and the integrity to give me some insite. If you cheated, but can't seem to make it up to your partner... do some good and help someone else out and answer my questions, honestly.....Anyone??
2006-10-25 02:51:36 · update #1
I was wondering the same thing. Good question.
2006-10-24 10:15:27 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't possibly answer all of your questions, but I can tell you that I think I've figured out one of the fundamental reasons why men and women misunderstand one another in relationships: women think that sex is all men can think about, while to men, it seems to be the only thing you don't think about.
Therefore, our approach to the world around us is somewhat physical (and may seem shallow), while yours tends to be more abstract (and may seem more 'deep').
I am a heterosexual male who has never cheated on any of his girlfriends (believe it or not!), but I am a man after all and I know how we think. Just because I am a one woman man doesn't stop the women I see on the average day from looking damn appealing, and I can't say that cheating has never crossed my mind. It all boils down to self-control, and the ego, i.e. do you put yourself first or your partner?
Also women tend to believe and adhere more strongly to concepts and systems, and for longer periods of time than men do. This is why there are more men than women in churches, women are more reliable voters and usually the backbone of the family. It is also why a woman is more likely to forgive a man who cheats than the other way around.
So, whereas your approach to the relationship will be a holistic one more likely to endure the tests of time, men may remain more susceptible to external factors, influences, and circumstances. Hope this helps.
2006-10-24 12:56:35 · answer #2 · answered by Coreydan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've obviously never been hurt by someone you love. Yes, I love my wife, but she has chosen the kids and grandkids over me. All her time and energy is spent, there is absolutely nothing left for me. I am a passionate, romantic open minded guy with a vivid imagination. What am I supposed to do, sit here alone, in misery going through Kleenex like it's going out of style? The rest of the life I've built is about as good as it's going to get. So don't be so quick to judge.
2006-10-24 10:33:35 · answer #3 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as a "soul". And the d1ck does not have a "listening" receptor so that men "listen" with it. In this perspective men and women aren't different. Both cheat in same amount and both fall in love ( spoiler alert ! ) with their BRAINS. And most of them are stupid when they fall in love and go with the worse possible choice. Men with gold diggers and women with abusive, drunk or who knows what else men. P.S. : I tried to answer politely even though i suspect you're sexist as hell.
2016-05-22 10:05:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If MY man cheated, the only thing going thru his head would be a shotgun shell!
2006-10-24 10:23:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This appears to be a rhetorical question. There is no way to really regain the trust once it's been borken.
2006-10-24 10:05:57 · answer #6 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry I am not a man and I don't think their are any that have done this who will honestly answer your question... pride and ego are involved in this... also........ the ones that do it over and over find it a challenge and think of it as a game
2006-10-24 10:21:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really love some one. you would never hurt them by cheating with any one.sounds like he doesn't know what love is.
2006-10-24 20:03:22 · answer #8 · answered by gina g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women cheat 75% more often then men.
Don't get all high and mighty on us.
2006-10-24 10:10:30 · answer #9 · answered by Jeremy© ® ™ 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
good question. I would like to know to
2006-10-24 10:05:44 · answer #10 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋