I have a 9 y old that is having a very hard time with school, how do i go about trying to get her to stop her fussing and try to learn what she is doing and focus on her schooling.She is very easily destracted in school work and or home work. It puts alot of stress on me all the time being the onlyone that is helping her with her schooling and home life. I live on my own and try to do my best in life for my daughter and her schooling and home life that it makes me sometimes just so frustrated.
2006-10-24 09:56:48 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Set some rules and LIVE by them. No giving in, no broken promises or threats. If homework time is immediately following school (or dinner or whatever time you designate) then be sure to always make her do her homework at that time. No excuses. You might want to have her tested for ADD/ADHD, also. It's more common in males, but not unheard of in females.
2006-10-24 10:06:07 · answer #1 · answered by AzOasis8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey,
my 10 year old daughter is the exact same, easily disracted at school, focusing on school. maybe its an age thing, i really don't know. i am not a single parent but my husband works very long hours so i see where u are coming from. i also have a 3 year old son. what is the teacher saying about her school work etc. maybe taking away one of her favourite things/grounding can help straighten her up more. maybe you can make a deal with her that if she improves, better marks, you will reward her, like having a friend over, taking her to an indoor playground. good luck.
2006-10-24 11:26:07 · answer #2 · answered by havingfun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello there....you do not mention what sort of girl she is...is she timid...loud.....clingy....
Is there something worrying her??
I am not a believer in too much homework, I feel most work should be done in school, especially for a 9 year old, it's different when they are older. There is so much pressure on kids these days to perform well.
Maybe she could do her homework on the kitchen table, whilst your getting the dinner ready..she can still hear you, and you can interact with her easier....it's just a thought....i did that with both of mine...their 20 and 17 now....do not worry...it does get easier.
2006-10-24 12:07:37 · answer #3 · answered by nosyrosy81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are consequences to unwanted behaviors. State to her your consequences of her unwanted behaviors. Keep it short & simple. Select some consequence that is important & valued to her; something she does not want to occur but not something totally devastating. Above all else be consistent. Keep it equal to the behavior. For example, she cannot watch a certain TV show unless she is finished with her homework first. Or she cannot go out to play or talk to her friends untill all her schoolwork is done.
If she is not finishing work at school she needs some consequence for this. Keep your word, stick with what you say, & be consistent. Be there to provide consistency.
2006-10-24 11:11:21 · answer #4 · answered by hollykcampbell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is around and I still have this problem with my 9 year old. I asked the school for help with his work because even with my husband around it was still difficult. (not the work itself, but trying to help him understand it) They put him in a reading class at school that fit into his learning schedule. Talk to the principal and ask for options.
2006-10-24 10:27:28 · answer #5 · answered by purpledragonflyjrh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know just how you feel. All I can say is breathe. I know it is hard but you will get through it. Have you thought about setting up a plan/schedule? Perhaps you can have someone take her once a week or so, it might help you to relax a bit.
2006-10-24 10:08:08 · answer #6 · answered by suz' 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIND OUT WHAT TYPE OF ACTIVITY SHE LOVES THEN GO WITH THAT. IF YOU KEEP HER INTERESTED IT HELPS. MAYBE YOU CAN GET HER INTO BIG BROTHER BIG SISTER PROGRAM. HAVE HER BE AROUND GOOD MALE ROLE MODELS, IT WOULD HELP.
2006-10-24 10:08:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋