There is this guy that i have known for about 2 years, right now he is locked up for being in the wrong place at the wrong time.I like him, he has a good heart always concerned on how i am doing in school and how my daughter is doing and i dont get that alot.He sends me & my baby cards telling us that he loves us and miss's us and how much he wants to be out here with us.He has a great personality, and well he always puts a smile on my face, he makes me really happy.But i am not to sure because he use to be with my cousin who i hate with a passion for backstabing me(but that is a whole other story)but its that my dad's family knows that they were together before and well I feel that it would be odd me being with him.I am so confused should i keep writing to him as i am or should i let him know that there is no furture for us?I do care for him and i do like him but but i am just so confused about the whole thing.What do i do?I could say that i have never had a guy care 4 me like that.
2006-10-24 09:55:18 · 19 answers · asked by Sweet Momma 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if u feel like it. be nice.
2006-10-24 09:57:31 · answer #1 · answered by iamadam'sgirl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, everyone who is locked up was either at the wrong place at the wrong time, or just plain innocent completely. All the guys in there are totally in love, too and write the most heart-felt letters you can imagine. Think about it though...they've got nothing but time on their hands, and they love getting mail. It's the only thing that makes you still feel human in there. Before you know it he'll be asking you to put money on his books. Then when he gets out he'll probably knock off a piece a couple times & then say it's not going to work out.
2006-10-24 10:05:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you and respects you, there is no reason for you to doubt.
Be happy,. Develop a strong relationship with him, a strong friendship. He sounds like he is very loving and kind towards you so enjoy that attention and be thankful you have found such a wonderful friend in him.
Try to talk to your family. See how he treated her, what they know, what they saw. See how they feel about him.
The most important thing though, is you and your daughter. How you feel reigns supreme, If he makes you happy, dont care what other people say or do.
I hope your daughter grows up healthy and happy and becomes as intelligent as you are :)
2006-10-24 10:16:52 · answer #3 · answered by surfer_grl_ca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is much to be learned in life. If it's drama already leave it alone. Don't welcome all that into your life. One thing I've learned is that people will do and say whatever they feel you need to hear. Focus on you and your child and be really clear about what you want. Whether you believe it or not, there are many other men that will offer the same and more. If you're a drama queen then go ahead . If not be a little patient and see what else is in store for you.
2006-10-24 10:01:26 · answer #4 · answered by freeme529 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to make the choice, not your family or what you think they will think of you! If you really care about this guy and your truly believe that he cares about you and your child then go for it, but if you have any doubts about the relationship then you need to spend some time considering what is best for you and your child! First and foremost is your responsibility to take care of your child whether you have a man in your life or not. If you let your family make decisions for you, you will have a long miserable life ahead of you!
2006-10-24 10:00:20 · answer #5 · answered by DC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like him and feel it's the right thing then go for it. Keep talking to him. It sounds like he likes you too. Who cares what your dad says. I know you probably want to respect what your father says if he doesn't like this guy, but if you feel it's right and things will work on then your dad will understand and he will want what's best for you, and what makes you happy. But be careful.. if he's in jail then he might not be good news for you and your baby. Keep your child in mind too.
2006-10-24 09:57:53 · answer #6 · answered by C-Baby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he was always caring and otherwise stable before he got locked up then go for it regardless of what people think. Just make sure he's not just singin you some jailhouse crap...they usually do. You have to do what makes you happy.
Good Luck
Chas
2006-10-24 09:58:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he has a good heart and is a good person than continue on until you have a reason not to. Follow your heart........your feeling says its never failed you before. At least not in a way that was not beneficial.
2006-10-24 09:57:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Locked up for being in the wrong place at the wrong time? Was that his excuse??? I'd think twice about getting involved with a guy who even puts himself close to being in the "wrong place"
2006-10-24 09:57:40 · answer #9 · answered by crazydogg_2001 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, i think that if you like him then you shouldnt stop seeing him! No matter what the matter is! You really shouldnt stop speaking or seeing him and if he is always there for you then you should be there for him when he most needs you! Good luck and say Helo to him for me!
(13 years)
2006-10-24 10:02:12 · answer #10 · answered by xtuckinzx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're looking for a VERY complicated and difficult future, then move forward with him.
There's a LOT of guys out there who AREN'T locked up (and never have been). Fish in THAT pond instead.
2006-10-24 09:58:08 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋