Well I mean there is this guy that I have known for about 3 weeks already and like I just moved on from my ex that I really liked and like now I am with another guy and he treats me so much better than all the other guys and like we have basically the same problems but we already started falling in love with each other and its like wow!!! Why didn't God send me him a long time so we could be so much happier...but I really don't know because we already started to have sex and I am a christian and I really don't things like that so is it really lust or is it way to fast to be doing somehting like that? Please tell me where I am going to or where I am coming from? Does this mean that I am a slut or something because I just came out of a relationship and now I am one so much better than the one before? HELP me please I am serious!!!
2006-10-24 09:49:29 · 17 answers · asked by vickyg_892008 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not sure how long it has been since your last relationship, but you want to make sure that he isnt a rebound guy and you are just enoying the time with him because he was better than your other guys you have dated. Try not to compare him to other guys, but more about how you two click together. It seems like he isnt just going for you to sleep with you because he hasnt left you... but since sex is very important to you and you dont want that little percentage of hurt to happen to you .,.,you may want to back up a little and maybe talk to him to let him know how important sex is to you, if it is. And how he is important to you also. If he seems to feel the same way about you menatally and not just physically, then you have caught yourself in a great place with a great person. hope this helps
2006-10-24 10:01:46 · answer #1 · answered by lostnconfused 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with hooking up with another guy soon after your ex. To perceive him in a better light than all other guys you've ever been with. I mean you could really be loving this guy. Just be careful that he isn't just a rebound guy because that would hurt both you and him. You definately wouldn't want to hurt the person you love. The sex thing might be a little too fast but then again I might be wrong. I would say it's lust. Give it a bit of time. Tell him to slow down for you and perhaps wait a while. If he doesn't wait then I guess he wasn't the perfect guy after all.
Good luck!
2006-10-24 17:01:05 · answer #2 · answered by Janety 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think both of you caught each other on the rebound which is OK. When the head says wow, the body isn't usually far behind. Think of how empty your were and for how long. You are not a **** but rather a woman who is in love, feels wanted and cared about better than ever before. You also desire this man for how he makes you feel and how you feel about him. You seem to have a dynamic chemistry and charmingly you are a little gitty that such joy has come to your life. Don't let religion deny you the things that you love. I know that sounds a little crazy, but people tend to rationalize themselves out of happiness and then wonder why they are miserable. You are going out with a guy you love, and are coming from a relationship that was sort of OK, but not wow. Allow this man to be your prince; don't fret, and be happy/
2006-10-24 17:09:28 · answer #3 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay calm down...you aren't a bad person if that was what you were getting at. I don't know how long you were in your previous relationship, but its never good to jump in to anything new. Becareful, once you start having sex your emotions get all confused. Its probably not love at all, more of a rebound relationship really. Love takes time and how well can you really know someone after a few weeks. And i'm not talking about the facts, i mean like the little things that make them tick. I'm sure it feels nice to be with someone new, and someone who treats you well, but be careful and take your time. Good Luck
2006-10-24 16:57:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you put a pause on having sex for a while. Let your relationship develop and see how things go from there. It seems that you guys really like each other and sometimes sex does give it an extra kick. But if you want to know if it’s love or lust, you gotta eliminate one for a while until you can figure out what’s going on. Good luck.
2006-10-24 16:53:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry so much about it being true love or lust, you are in a happy relationship, we should all be so lucky. Enjoy, watch it grow, maybe you and this new guy were meant to be, or maybe you he is just there to show you that not all guys are jerk. Don't put so much pressure on the relation "This is my one and only true love or I'm a sl*t" Just have fun, if it works out great, if not no big deal, you'll meet someone else.
2006-10-24 16:55:47 · answer #6 · answered by The Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you both understand each other because you went through the same things. But then again, you also seem to be going for a rebound since you just got out of a relationship, and same with the other guy. I would slow things down and see how everything turns out. You don't want to start falling for him (or have him fall for you) and then you (or him) decides it was just a rebound fling and then one of you gets hurt... again.
2006-10-24 16:55:22 · answer #7 · answered by C-Baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oooh the other Christians are going to get you. I hear the names coming. ME, being the non-believer that I am say....consenting adults can damn well do what they want, when they want and shouldn't be shamed to do so. These are trying times and life is toooo short. Live it up! Just use protection!! Back to the question of lust or love....I dont know,,,and who cares....enjoy each other and spend more time with each other and you will know what it is. Be well!
2006-10-24 16:54:30 · answer #8 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It could be either. Love is not defined by a relationship but rather the connection between the people.
2006-10-24 16:54:28 · answer #9 · answered by Ithy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think ...
You need to give it a time before you start calling your relationship "love"
I have the same problem myself a while back ...
As far as sex, I have no advices for that!
Good luck in yout relationship.
2006-10-24 16:53:36 · answer #10 · answered by Nicegal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋