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Question

I have known a lady for a while, we have spoken a couple times, haven't really spent time together due to her busy schedule. I am sort of in a bind of uncertainty, not knowing if I should pursue or just let things be. I was just wondering if anyone out there is or was in a situation where you are not sure if you want to date someone or pursue anthing like that of that nature? If so, what did you do.

Thanks all and sorry if this is a little confusing.

Answer 1

I'm always skeptical of people who are too busy to see you. If they like you they make the time. As far as not being sure whether you should date them or not.....Ive found that if you have any reservations about it then dont go forward. Your hesitant for a good reason even if you dont actually know what the reason is.

Answer 2

If you have known this lady for some time, i am sure she wouldn't be offended if you asked her for a date! especially if she is available! when you are on a date i am sure you will get a feeling as to whether the two of you should just carry on as friends or go a little further and ask for another date!
Don't be pushy, just be yourself, relax, maybe go to a movie or a party together! do something fun! have a laugh, ladies seem to like guys who make them laugh! not by corny jokes but by the dumb stuff we do at times! ask her at the end of the night if she enjoyed herself and if she would like to go somewhere with you some other time! be prepared to say No strings attatched because she might not see you as relationship material, she might decline and say she loved the night but Blah blah blah, in which case you know maybe it wasn't meant to be
but she may jump at the chance of a second date! Don't come on strong, I personally don't think ladies like it!

Answer 3

I actually understand the confusion....and who hasn't been where you are now. There's always some amount of doubt as to whether to pursue a relationship with another person--that's just part of it. I usually try to follow my instincts...and maybe try to go out on at least one date before I make a definite decision. You seem to be on the right track though. How can you be sure about dating unless you actually spend time with her. I'd suggest you go to at least the next step...either ask her out on a date or arrange another way to spend time hanging out (sporting event, concert, go walking, horseback riding, whatever you enjoy--could make it more of a casual thing in order to lower expectations). But it's natural to be uncertain at this point....and you seem wise to question your decisions at this point. Good Luck.

Answer 4

This is pretty common for us guys. There's ALWAYS the risk of rejection in the very early stages of a relationship.

But, remember, spectators never win a game. It's always the participants.

Answer 5

take ur time and enjoy the time. If it start to do more then let it happen. Time takes slow time to build a relationship. Dont assume to fast cause the meaning of assume is making an *** out of u and me. ***/u/me

Answer 6

Sometimes you have to go with your gut feelings. You could step
back and see what she does. Sometimes we use the BUSY CARD , to avoid going out with someone.

Answer 7

depends>>>> she have kids... independent? money in the bank... maybe you should find out more about her before you fall so fast... Is she working 2 jobs ...? student? got lots of bills ?? drrug habit?? ask her out and go from there...

Answer 8

I'd try to pursue it if she says she doesn't have time ask her when she does have time.

Answer 9

No regrets man. Go for it. You'll be kicking yourself later cuz you didnt.

Answer 10

If you think you have something to offer. Go for it. You won't know unless you try it.