Do Long Distance Relationships Ever Work Out?

Question

I NEED HELP!

Answer 1

No. Mine isn't. I just dont seem to think that it will work out only because you run out of things to say and you never are on the same page as he is, you both are doing different things. I am wanting to break up with mine, he in NM and I in TX. Good luck with yours, mine is a mess.

Answer 2

I have been in a couple that didn't work out, but that was because we decided that it wasn't what we wanted.
On the other hand, my husband works away and a lot of our relationship was at a distance and more of our marriage has been at a distance than not. we decided after 1 week of our relationship that we wanted to be together, even if it meant that we would have to be apart. I would be lying if I said that I didn't mind the distance, but I feel that it is worth it. If we didn't stick with it, I wouldn't have the love of my life. A lot of people say that you can't trust someone if you are in a long distance relationship, but I think that you have to trust someone more to be in a long distance relationship. You have to know eachother and know that you can go without physical intimacy. But, when you get to see eachother, you appreciate it so much more! If you can survive the apart times, the together times make it so much more!
My common joke is that I can't get sick of him if he is away all the time!

Answer 3

Perhaps it does, but it did not work out for me!. Long distance relationships are hell on earth but if you wish to experiment it, go ahead. This was some 20 years ago and I grew up from the experience. I am not bitter and did have another relationship after that. I had to learn a lesson and I did so I would not do it again. It all depends on the partners I guess. Love conquers all! In my case, perhaps it was not strong enough to survive the test of distance.

Good luck if you decide to have the experience.

Answer 4

Mine did - but here's the skinny:

If you are older and kids grown and out of the house or not kids at all...you have a better chance.

If you have a job that can easily transfer to where he is (or visa-versa)...you have a better chance.

You MUST see each other at least once a month to keep it going...and that takes money - so if you are financially well off...you have a better chance.

Eventually somebody has to be willing to move to the other's location....no chance at all if that doesn't happen - that's a no brainer.

Worked for us because....we have all of the above..and I'll be moving to him eventually with a job transfer.

It's HARD...but with the right circumstances - can work.

Good luck.

Answer 5

I can say for sure they do work out, but it takes both parties working to communicate and stay honest with themselves and eachother. My boyfriend(now husband) was sent to South Korea for a year. Shortly there after, I was sent to Iraq. We tried our best to call each other and write. We used the Yahoo! IM a lot too. It was a rought year for both of us. North Korea was making a lot of noise that year and my man was up near the boarder and I was in a war zone. I know that during the darkest days of my deployment all I could do is think that some day soon I was going to go home and he would be there waiting for me. I would wait two or three hours at a time for just a chance to call him. It was well worth it. Finding a computer to work over there during the first days of the war were tough too and the wait!
After a year and two days of seperation we were reunited. He was there waiting for me when I got off that plane from Iraq. Two weeks later we were married.
So, yes, it does work out, but we both put a lot of hard work in it to get it that way.

Answer 6

Yes they definitely can. But they need work to succeed. I think you have to be prepared to keep in contact with one another by e mail, phone and as many visits as you can.

You may also find that when you do get together you row more....this is just the frustrations of being apart from each other, then by the time you've got over this it's often time to go back, so it's not easy.

However, my daughter and her boyfriend are still together after 3 years nearly 200 miles apart while he was studying so, yes, it can and does work.

Hope this helps.

Answer 7

[O]nly if they are meant to be. The only problem is when you are trying to figure it out, then one is bold enough to move to the other location just to find out that it wasn't meant to be.

[Y]ou got to take risks on these though if you think it will work. I didn't take the risks and therefore I lost after many months of long distance relationship. If you want a bad enough, then let it run its course and jump when you are ready.

Answer 8

They do indeed but it is difficult. I met a woman on the Internet, we were doing some business with import/export, an intimacy developed which became stronger, so I went to meet her. It was good, love developed. I came back home, we corresponded intimately for several months, then I moved to her location and we were married. Very successful.

I lived near Albuquerque, New Mexico - She lives in Nizhnekamsk, Russia.

Answer 9

Rarely.

They are hard because touch them or anything. When you argue, you can't have make-up sex. No shoulder tor cry on, no tuna to tap on. Nothin. People all around you all happily being a couple doing things together.

If you can look past all this, and somehow keep a relationship alive until he gets back and then f*ck the sh!t outta him, then it's cool.

Answer 10

I was in one once, and it didn't work out for me. It's pretty hard to work out a relationship when you don't get to spend time together one-on-one. It's very easy to lie or pretend on the phone, on email, etc. But, it can work, if both parties are truly committed to it, and if it is leading toward something closer and permanent in the future.