Why is that when I meet new guys and become interested they all fall for me, head of heals type thing and as soon as they fall they get scarred and run like a dog with his tail between his legs? I just don’t understand it; I am intelligent, independent, honest and attractive. Is it to much? Should I be lees independent act stupid?
2006-10-24 09:36:08 · 19 answers · asked by KEL971 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I consider myself a "good guy," to some extent. I don't recommend "acting stupid" - unless you're trying to pick up beefy, macho, washed-up red necks that hang out at the local bar all day. I think guys that are legit and have managed to get past the "Yo, lets do chicks and get wasted" phase of their lives like an independent girl...but not TOO independent. Not because she is so smart and we're afraid...but because she could be independent to the point where she is so wrapped up in herself that it seems like there's no possibility for a future. Be independent...but show some interest in your man, too. We like to know we're appreciated. Show some love...let us know that we're needed and you want us around...that you aren't so "independent" that we can get kicked to the curb the moment something "important" comes up.
2006-10-24 09:46:11 · answer #1 · answered by The Rainmaker 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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When a person is going into a relationship, it is the "attraction" factor that is the initial consideration.
In order to want to "stay" in a relationship, a person wants to see the other as dynamic, interesting, caring, considerate, spicy and fun;
AND a potential best-friend.
YOU sound like a person that has many desireable characteristics, but are you also being best-friends? Do you act and do like best-friends do?
Do you take turns at everything, and just have FUN?
Do you act forgiving, and trusting, and spicy too?
Is there something missing from the "You" that a blind person would notice???
Continuing relaitonships have NOTHING to do with "attraction". They have everything to do with interaction and balance
and equal sharing and caring
in a way that you BOTH will like.
Do not ever be a doormat
and
Never treat another person like a doormat.
stw
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2006-10-24 09:43:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like the answer from Denise.. but I think most guys would love an independent woman so that the woman could take care of them someday.. n u shouldnt be stupid but acting stupid is OK and its kind of a fun things to do sometimes.
2006-10-24 09:51:26 · answer #3 · answered by Johny B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys can't handle such succesfull and independent women... He might also be intimidated by you. If he can not handle who you are then he is most definatly not the one for you. I see many women taking the role that you took in life and I think its great. Its just a change in most socities that men can't deal with because they just want to be so dominant. Both can take that role in a relationship and be even greater and more powerful together. If you are such a great person as you described why would you want to change for anyone?
2006-10-24 09:49:00 · answer #4 · answered by lostnconfused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you rather be the intelligent, independent single, or the stupid, subservient girlfriend? Don't let a date matter more to you than your brains. There are guys out there who like strong, smart women — they're just hard to find. But you can do it, I'm sure.
I, too, am intelligent, attractive, and single. But I'd rather be that than someone's girlfriend.
2006-10-24 11:21:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way. Any guy who is attracted to someone who is trying to act stupid is the wrong type of guy. Why should you hide who you are ? Don't you think you might up with a controlling man who wants to take advantage of his girlfriend's 'stupidity'?
You seem to have plenty of confidence and good characteristics , if the right guy doesn't come along who cares?
There's no way you need to change.
2006-10-24 09:42:29 · answer #6 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you act stupid, then you'll attract stupid men. It's that simple. Is that really what you want for yourself? Do you want to date some moron who can't think his way out of a paper bag? Personally, I think there's nothing sexier than intelligence, confidence and high self-esteem.
2006-10-24 09:38:29 · answer #7 · answered by solarius 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ALWAYS be yourself.
There's already too much pretending and acting in the early stages of relationships without deliberately trying to be someone you aren't.
A real, mature relationship is where both people accept the other for who they are.
2006-10-24 09:42:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't need help here. Just let it go. There's nothing worth pursuing. One day soon there will be someone more mature who will be interested and man enough to show it.
2016-05-22 10:01:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kelly trust me be your self.....it better to you than some idiot who think you are stupid no brain...is it we women try to be better than the world .don't let some men change the way you are one day you have to be yourself any way....unless you planing to meet stupid men then that is a different story,be proud of your self the right man will love you for who you are not for what he wants you to be (&that is called true love & a strong man &that is who you want)
2006-10-24 09:47:18 · answer #10 · answered by Jazzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋