I know him and his would be wife as they both work with me. We interact very regularly at work. he has not invited me to the wedding. The only reason that they have not invited me is because they are trying to have a very simple wedding with family only. I am quite sure they would have invited me otherwise. What i dont know is - should i buy a simple card or should i buy a gift...should i give them something before the marriage or after the marriage ... i am not very accustomed to the american culture and they are an american couple ..so please advice
2006-10-24 09:29:24 · 12 answers · asked by pele 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
if u can afford it, get them a small gift and meet them personally to hand it over to them. u could also invite them home to dinner and give them the gift. this u could do either before or after the marriage. it will show them ur good will for them.
2006-10-24 09:34:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A gift and card would be very appropriate here. It's hard to set a price limit cuz it depends so much on your own financial situation, where you live, etc. but something modest would probably be most appropriate. Again, whatever fits YOU best, works.
If they are registered somewhere where you can have the gift shipped to their house, that would be a very good option. I like the idea of timing the gift just after the wedding to help prevent the "oh no, we didn't invite him/her!" feelings that some couples would feel. Besides, a gift is simply that - a gift, no strings attached.
2006-10-24 10:25:46 · answer #2 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel close to them whether you are invited to the wedding or not, it would be a good idea to give them a card and it doesn't matter if it's before or after the wedding. Give it when you feel you comfortable giving it to them. If you work with them and somebody in the company is giving them a wedding party, then you may give a gift. Giving a gift is really for people who are invited to the wedding, bridal shower, or a wedding party.
I studied to be a bridal consultant/wedding consultant and the above is what etiquette says.
2006-10-24 09:39:58 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends- is your company throwing a wedding shower for them? If they are, then you definitely need to bring them a gift. If not, a nice, heartfelt card or a small gift, like a gift card to wherever they're registered, is always appropriate. According to the Emily Post Guide to Etiquette, you should either give them the gift before the wedding day or up to a month after, but I recommend giving it to them beforehand, like maybe a week before the big day. One of the biggest pressures of a newlywed couple is having to write all those thank-you notes after the ceremony. If you give them your gift in advance, they can knock your note out early.
2006-10-24 09:39:24 · answer #4 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very thoughtful of you to think of your friends and colleagues by getting them a wedding gift.
Are they registered? (Have they signed up at a store?) These registers have "wish lists". These are gifts the couple would like to have to get started out in life. You could search these lists and find something that fits your budget.
If they are wine drinkers, you could give them a nice bottle of wine.
You could also give a "gift card" in the amount you can afford from a store the couple frequents. If they are starting out in a new home, perhaps a gift card to a home improvement store like Home Depot or Lowe's. You could also get a card from a department store like J. C. Penney. The couple could get towels and other items they need.
You could give them the gift when they get back from their honeymoon.
2006-10-24 09:43:25 · answer #5 · answered by Lizzie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A card with your wishes of goodwill would be appropriate. If you can afford a small, simple gift that would be appropriate as well. However, do not go overboard on the gift because it could make them feel guilty for not being able to invite you to their wedding. So a small gift and card would be perfect for them.
2006-10-24 09:42:29 · answer #6 · answered by KND 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A gift is very thoughtful of you. It doesn't have to be very big; how about a nice frame. You can give it to them anytime from now until 6 months after the wedding, but ASAP is nicer so that the bride and groom can work on their thank you notes.
2006-10-24 09:35:52 · answer #7 · answered by DMBthatsme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A small gift would be a good jester. // I would give it to them right after the wedding. // They may feel obligated to invite you if you give it to them prior to the ceremony. // It does not have to be a big gift, a nice frame for their wedding picture is a good suggestion.
2006-10-24 10:01:28 · answer #8 · answered by Heather N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're talking right here some guy who says that an intensive pal will marry him for the visa?? What?? Thats criminal, actually!!! Hes having you at it. you are able to't comprehend him after a quick time and paying for presents potential no longer something.............. in case you do it you're stupid for right here motives: a million. you're too youthful 2. you haven't any longer hassle-loose him long adequate 3. He has made it sparkling that he will do notwithstanding it takes to get a Visa, some thing dodgy approximately him
2016-10-16 08:45:06 · answer #9 · answered by corridoni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a nice gift would be appropriate if you want to acknowledge the happy occassion. Nothing elaborate. A nice candle, an nice corning ware serving dish. I think that would be very appreciated and considered thoughtful
2006-10-25 06:05:01 · answer #10 · answered by June smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋