Any advice on getting my 6 yr old daughter to stay in her own bed thru the nite?

Question

She will go to sleep in her own bed but in the middle of the nite she sneaks into our bed!! HELP!!

Answer 1

I had this problem with my 6yr old daughter as well. I made it a reward program for her. I told her that if she stayed in her bed the entire night for one night she would earn something (she was learning money so it was a quarter) Once she was able to stay there I changed it to a bigger "reward" after 3 days. I also told her that if she wanted to come into my bed she had to lay on the floor. She wasn't allowed into my bed because there was no room. She did this a couple of times and then decided her bed with her pillow and blankets was much more comfortable.
Awhile back I had gotten her a small kids boom box for her room. She now listens to one song on a cd over and over all night long. She is allowed to pick one song off of any cd she has and that song is put on repeat for the night. I set the volume and then either turn it off or turn it down once she falls asleep. The same song seems to help her fall asleep and when she wakes up in the middle of the night she tends to stay in her bed and listen to the music and fall back to sleep again.
I hope some of these ideas work for you. I know I'm much happier now that the nights aren't so rough.
Good luck!\

Answer 2

I relate to your question. Where I live if you stayed in gymnastics and showed talent, the pressure started to join a team. My daughter also took it from an early age. When she was 5 I started asking parents of older kids about it. One mom had an 8 year old and she said her schedule was 20 hours a week. I just could not see allowing that with my daughter. At the time she also did ice skating so I gave her the choice between the two, and she chose ice skating. Now she herself is 8 and the same pressure is there to skate many hours a week. However, what's different is that she's not on a team so that gives us a lot more freedom. It's an individual effort towards her own personal goals. So in the fall when she has more school work we go down to 3-4 hours a week, and we can put in more hours in winter when she can't play outside anyway. But she could skate every day before school and there are people who do that. My priorities are to give her life balance at this age. She would skate every day if I gave her the choice. I don't think that would be healthy or right for her at this age. Yes, it's important to listen to your kids if they love an activity but you still have to be the parent and make a judgment call about what is too much - and just because other people do it doesn't make it the right choice for YOUR child.

Answer 3

If you can catch her sneaking into your bed, get up and carry her to her room. Talk to her briefly, loving on her, and assure her that you love her and that you are just a few steps away, but that you have to get some sleep for work tomorrow. Kids understand a lot that we don't give them credit for. I am assuming that she is not having nightmares - in that case, you need to be checking to see if a special nite lite might do the trick. You might try reading a children's story to her before she goes to bed. At any rate, continued encouragement to sleep all the way through in her bed will yield the desired results.

Answer 4

Try a star/sticker motivation chart--I got my 6 and 7 year old to stay in bed using this technique. One sticker for each night of the week they stay in bed, some small reward if they make 7 for the week.

Answer 5

You should watch the show "Nanny 911" but what they do on the show is you justhave to keep taking her back and placing her in her bed without even saying anything to her...even when she starts to take a s*** fit. After a few nights is seems that the kids stop getting up. Good Luck

Answer 6

I had the same issue with my child. I feel she was just feeling insecure. I got her a "pretty" night light for her bedroom, but that really didn't help either. She just grew out of it, no big deal. When I stopped making a big deal about it, the faster she became more secure, knowing I loved her "no matter what" I guess. Now she's a very healthy teenager-giving me other headaches!! With her bedroom door CLOSED!

Answer 7

put a picture of u by guys by her bed so she feels like ur wacthing her and put water in a spary bottle and call monster away spary or something spary it around her room and say it' to keep the monsters away or let her do it so she dosent cacth on and buy her a speical teddy to sleep with like a big one that could possibly be used as a pillow

Answer 8

Have you asked her why she is doing this???

Don't you watch the nanny shows? Put her back in bed without saying anything to her. If she gets up again, you just keep doing it over and over til she stays there.

Answer 9

try and get something she wants and tell her you wont get it until you stay in your bed her is two things you can do about when she sneakes into your bedroom lock your door or wait until she sneakes into your bed and scare her

Answer 10

I tie my child to his bed and it seems to work fine. Sure, his wrists and legs might get chaffed from the rope but it is for his own good.