k, so, im just looking for random opinions. the basic question is this: in a dating relationship, should I lean toward commitment because I don't want to establish a pattern of leaving when times get tough, or should I lean towards breaking up because, when considering marriage, i don't want to risk making a permanent mistake?
A little bit of background: I've been dating this guy for 19 months. hes great, stable, loves me... but he doesnt do the 'little things' that would make me be sure. So, I find myself not sure what to do. Do I give him the benefit of the doubt and lean toward commitment? or do I stop seeing him and find someone who loves me in the ways that I need to be loved?
2006-10-24 09:19:24 · 4 answers · asked by now but not quite yet 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my dear,there is no a relationship that is perfect,one thing or the other brings out the differences.your relationship with him is not yet 2 years,so dont doubt him yet, you also said he loves you then why dont you try and correct him. i mean if you love him too tell him what and how you want him to relate with you that would make you believe you are secured. he might not know that he is hurting you but because he loves you he will always listen to you and tell him what you want instead of saying bye bye now.pls dont do that,if truly you meant it that he loves you....
2006-10-24 09:37:13 · answer #1 · answered by rolly f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends how important those little things are to you. Can yo live without them ? You have to remember that nobody comes perfect and the relationship you have in your mind will rarely play out exactly in real life. You have to weigh the good with the bad and then make your decision. Pick wisely as the pickins are slim.
2006-10-24 16:24:35 · answer #2 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no set answer really when it looks like your relationship is getting serious you need to think about whether the person you are with is the right person to settle down with in the case of marriage if its yes then do it if its no the the relationship needs to end
2006-10-24 16:23:37 · answer #3 · answered by nealeyus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
basically hunny u need to think to ur self and as that question do u love him and do u want to be wiv him for the rest of ur life
its totally upto u think long and hard aboutit
its totally upto u
take care
2006-10-24 16:23:55 · answer #4 · answered by Katie P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋