how to move forward when you've never gotten through the past?

Question

When you are young you seem to do things that may seem to be the best thing at the time. When you get older you wish to amend and do things a little differently. I wanna reach out to that person but am afraid that the outcome will be more harmful than benificial. M.D. holcomb was my first love and I am so sorry.

Answer 1

If you think it would be harmful to contact this person, do the right thing and don't. If he is married, for instance, you don't want to disrupt that.
If you think it would help him to hear your apology, then make contact in an extremely discrete way. Perhaps you could use an intermediary to convey your apology. Don't force it.
As for your own healing, you can accomplish that without him, and it may be necessary.
I honor your desire to do what is right and to make amends if possible.

Answer 2

I had a similar experience. When I finally found my first love, he was so happy because he had been trying to contact me for years as well. I told him everything I wanted to apologize for, explained why I did what I did and that it had nothing to do with him. I told him that he had been a wonderful boyfriend and that I wish I could have been in a place where I could have been the kind of girlfriend that he deserved. I also made sure to thank him for all the great things he had taught me through his example and how it had helped me become a better person. We both cried and it was really helpful for him to move on with his life.

Now I'm not saying that everyone would be that receptive, but it's still worth at least writing a letter. That would give him the time to think about it and the space for both of you to feel a little more secure. Don't expect anything from him, just offer the best you can and let it go.

Good luck Honey!

Answer 3

Those that don't learn from the past are doomed to repeat it.
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Answer 4

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