ok, so this weekend i was with my ex bf, and i was just joking around with him in the car, and he exploded! he freaked out and started hitting me, he choked me until i felt to the point of passing out and shoved me out of his truck. i have bruises all over, and needless to say its over. he called my friend and told her next time it happened i would get it ten times worse and end up on life support. i keep getting calls from blocked numbers on my cell phone, im really kind of scared. i dont doubt that he would come after me, im 17 and im home alone for 5 out of 7 days of the week. he already has a warrant out for his arrest. i dont know if i should buy mace, or if that would just piss him off and i need a knife or something? my neighbor said she thought she saw his car driving around our neighborhood. i dont know what to do.
2006-10-24 09:17:49 · 30 answers · asked by Sareeg 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i also have no idea where he is now. i have talked to police but they dont know where he is now either.
2006-10-24 09:22:53 · update #1
Unfortunately this happens more than you think. to be honest, I would suggest that you stay with a relative. That HE doesn't know where they live. You may want to consider changing your phone number too- it's his way of terrorizing you by calling from blocked numbers.
A restraining order may provoke him but at the same time, if anything did happen, it would make his punishments worse. As for defense, I would NOT suggest carrying a knife- my uncle was killed with his ouwn knife. Mace would be better because it would give you a chance to run.
Also, I would suggest that you call the police and notify them that you are being threatened and you fear for your life (which is quite possibly true). Also, keep record of everything that has happend that has involved him- or you think he may have been involved (like driving around your house).
I really feel for you, I was lucky enough to escape a violent ex-boyfriend. His punichment for punching me in the face when I was pregnant (with his child) was a $200 fine and anger management classes.
If you need any further suggestions, I recommend that you call a domestic violence hotline- look it up in the phone book. They have a lot of useful information in helping you and are very understanding people.
OH! Depending on how long ago he attacked you, I would report it to the police. If you still have visible marks, I would call. Even though they only give them a slap on the wrist- it sticks with them for a very long time (if they're over 18 anyway).
2006-10-24 09:35:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey I am so sorry! Here is a big hug! He obviously has major issues and you do not need that! There are plenty of guys that would love to take care of you and treat you like the princess you are! Who are you living with? You said that 4 out of 5 days you are home alone? Does this person that you are living with know about him? If it was me everytime he called or came by I would call the police and report it because once it has been reported you have a proof in documentation that he has harrassed you. If you do not have a restraining order on him I suggest you get one immediately and sweetie I dont think that being by yourself is a good idea right now. What if he tries to kill you? You need to stay with someone that can be there for support to help you through so when the person you are living with isnt home then you need to stay with the neighbor or someone that you know really well that you feel safe with. Carry anything you feel you need to to protect yourself. I will keep you in my prayers. Love, Clarissa
2006-10-24 09:24:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first person. Id Call the police and let them know whats been going on and ask if a car could come in route more often to your area. But for your own safty id get mace. Ya it would tick him off but if he cant see you then you got a chance to get away to help. I wouldnt suggest the knife cause its very risky in the laws eyes. Do what you feel is needed for your safty. Be Safe and Take care of your self.
2006-10-24 09:24:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first- you need to contact your local police department and file a report before the bruises heal, then begin the process of filing a restraining order.A similar issue happened to one of my best friends- he ended up spending a few days in jail for aggrivated assault. As far as the cell phone your best bet is to change your number and give it out only to friends you know you can trust not to send it along to him. When you're home make sure you lock all doors and windows. Im not sure if it's a room-mate you live with or family but both need to be made aware of what's happening.
2006-10-24 09:26:52 · answer #4 · answered by Faith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with a friend if you can or your neighbor. If he has a warrant out for his arrest, call the police and tell them where he is. Also, you can get a restraining order on him or go an press charges for the abuse. The last thing you should do is stay by yourself and remain scared.
2006-10-24 09:20:58 · answer #5 · answered by ltlchk_2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Soccergurl, so sorry to hear this. You need to report this to the police immediately, and take pictures of the bruises before they go away. You were assaulted and this freak needs to pay. Is there somewhere you can stay where your not alone? I hope you will ok.
YES, BUY SOME MACE.
2006-10-24 09:21:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to call the police immediately. I would also consider getting a restraining order. The cops should be able to point you in the right direction for that as well.
2006-10-24 09:21:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the classic case of nutso with a gusto syndrome. There are a lot of guys like that. My ex was one of them. If I never moved out of my home town he would still be trying to hustle me down. What you can do is get an immediate restraining order but you must report this A.S.A.P. don't put this off because it's your life that is at risk.
2006-10-24 09:21:31 · answer #8 · answered by girl_is_depeche 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if your friend was drinking, and you weren't, I would mention that to the people that thought you did bad.. Also, what about her character issues. You seem like an honest person. Is she known for lying? If so, remind those accusing you of your honesty etc... You're in a tough situation bro.. I can't think of any other ways to help you out..
2016-05-22 10:00:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm Police? He should be in jail for what he did, if you know how to find him and he has a warrant, let the cops know where he is. You might want to get a restraining order as well.
2006-10-24 09:21:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋