My boyfriend and I have had problems for a long time that we have been trying to work out. I went home to stay with my parents to sort things out. We were going to break up but now he wants to work on things. I'm not sure if I want to or not. The last time we broke up and said we would give it another try we said it would be our last chance. Should it?
2006-10-24 08:59:44 · 15 answers · asked by Danielle M 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Life is short .. if don't make you feel good find someone else.>> girlfriend you are the flower of the earth.. and you dont have to allow just anyone to water your flower.... don't settle... you know what a good woman's worth is .... ain't no half steppin.. put him in check
2006-10-24 09:03:01 · answer #1 · answered by jessica jones 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. If you've had problems for a long time, you have to realize that you're just not compatible. There's nothing wrong with him or you, you're just not compatible- you were infatuated, you got involved too quickly, and have had nothing but problems.... which means you're not right for each other. How much more time do you want to waste on problems and break ups and sorting things out and working on this and more break ups and chances and ...... when is enough enough? Another 5 years of this?
2006-10-24 09:04:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure. it's stupid. . .but sure. Why not? people do stupid thing all the time. one of the BIGGEST stupid things people do is fail to forgive. If you are "in love" then it is your JOB to overlook the little things that go wrong, and give forgiveness for the big things that happen. Remember, it is forGIVEness, not forEARNEDness. You FORGIVE without being asked, and without demanding any action from the other person -- like an apology. YOU forgive, and then you forget. The single most stupid thing a person can do is NOT forgive the one they love. the SECOND most stupid thing is to "keep score", and constantly reminding the person you love how badly YOu have been hurt. that is a real relationship killer! No, they will not STAY in love. if they stay broken up then they will eventually find someone else, and the love for the first person will be replaced with love for the second person. The world is NOT limited to "one person/one love", and there really is no such thing as "soul mate". if you stay broken up then you WILL find somebody new -eventually -- and you WILL be just as happy as your were with the first person. the world does NOT end when you break up.
2016-05-22 08:42:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well think about it! do you really love him? if you do try until you feel that things just won't work out any more. do you trust him? with out trust a relation ship can't work, so its really up to you. love is something that cant hurt you in the outside but can in the inside. ask you're self if you'd be better of without him? if you would then what are you do in waisting you're time? if you be the same then you don't need him, and if you'd be worse than keep him.
2006-10-24 09:18:17 · answer #4 · answered by east_la_mistress 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Danielle, I think you should stay with your parents for now. Remember if won't be forever! You seem confused and sounds like you both have a lot of unresolved problems. Problems just don't go away, they become bigger problems! Living with your parents will allow you to sort things out with a clear mind since you won't be living with him. Plus you could still date him if you want. If it is meant to be things will work out. Good luck. xoxo, Zena
2006-10-24 09:08:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you love him? or is it fear of being alone? Sometimes time apart heals and sometimes it shows you what you really want. And sometimes it doesnt matter how many times you break up... things will never change. Its like a broken record.... You need to figure out why you keep breaking up, what the problems really are and can they be changed or fixed see what is best...
2006-10-24 09:05:03 · answer #6 · answered by Jewelz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love yes give another try but if you are unhappy and the problem doesn't seem like it is gonna be solved. Then maybe it should be the last time.
2006-10-24 09:05:56 · answer #7 · answered by L@M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ANY time you are asking the question:
Breakup or Stay?
The answer is ALWAYS Breakup. ALWAYS.
Why? because you are at that point where you are considering it. You have decided that there really isn't anything else to be gained from the relatioship. Listen to that little voice in your head. Breakup.
2006-10-24 09:02:21 · answer #8 · answered by .... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
relationships are work, how much effort is it worth in trying to save yours?
instead of focusing on failure; look to the reasons you fight or feel differently about things that matter to you both.
i would keep your present sleeping arrangements, but see if it was worth the work just one more time.
2006-10-24 09:05:20 · answer #9 · answered by jawtar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you really love him then you should give it another chance, but if you think the problems you have are too hard to solve then just break up with him and find someone better for yourself
2006-10-24 09:03:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋