and how would you broach the the request we would be glad of your comments please
2006-10-24 08:59:07 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Not at all, your friends and family will already know you live together so this will not be a surprise, try a wording like this
' your presence at the wedding is enough of a gift but if you would like to make a gift to (bride)&(groom) then we would appreciate holiday vouchers from (make it clear what vouchers you want and where to get them) or a donation to the holiday fund'
I would not find this offensive at all, i would rather contribute to something useful than buy the couple something they don't need xx
2006-10-24 09:10:56 · answer #1 · answered by smoggii_bru 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It's tacky to actually ask for cash... but I think most people will know that what you want or need. You do need STUFF if you having a shower. I am in the same boat as you, but I want formal china and some nice stem wear. Perhaps you could redo a room or get new sheets and towels?? I would at least register at one store for actual gifts, because the people who are going to buy a gift ARE going to buy a gift.. no matter what you ask for so it might as well, be something you like or you going to get cassorole dishes!! Also to, some people feel uncomfortable giving money if they can not afford much... so you should register for some stuff.
2006-10-24 09:47:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
my husband and I had the exact same problem. We actually decided that we wanted John Lewis vouchers. We spent weeks trying to decide the best way of telling our guests. In the end we inserted a small slip of paper into each of the invites that read 'Mark and I are lucky enough to be starting married life with all we need, and whilst your presence is more important to us than presents, John Lewis vouchers would be very much appreciated'
I hope this answers your question and good luck
2006-10-25 00:38:49 · answer #3 · answered by lozza 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is tacky to ask for cash, even if you have everything you need. I understand your question, but you should be happy that your guests are able to attend and share your beautiful wedding day with you and your hubby. You can ask your family and friends to spread the word saying cash preferred. But there really isn't a nice way around it. I just hope things work out in the end and you get everything that you wish for on your wedding. Congrats!
2006-10-24 17:23:37 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly where you are coming from, my good lady wife and i had been living together for 4 years before we tied the knot. By that time we had set up and furnished our home and didnt really need a toaster or a microwave, like yourselves we wondered how to approach the subject and in the end just told everyone that we would rather have vouchers or cash as we had everything. People were fine about it, they understood our situation.
2006-10-24 09:04:36 · answer #5 · answered by thecoldvoiceofreason 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I take it you are getting married after living together for a while.It certainly is not wrong,and can tell you from experience as me and my wife got married last year after living together for 12years.When we invited friends and family to the wedding we where inundated questions about gifts,we politely gave the reply that we had everything that we needed for the house,but if they didn`t mind we would like euro`s so we could have a really good time on our honeymoon.To our suprise not one guest did not agree with this and they seemed quite relieved to be able to give us both something that they knew we would use on the honeymoon.It guarentees a great honeymoon that everyone thinks they have contributed to!
2006-10-24 09:11:34 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You probably shouldn't ask for anything since you already have everything you need. The whole point of people giving you a wedding gift is to help the new couple out with their new life. Since you have already been living together you don't really need help. Asking for money or vouchers is just tacky!!!
2006-10-24 09:30:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Absolutely not!
The best thing to do would be to talk to a travel agent in your area (AAA is GREAT with this) and get them to set up a registry for you.
Then, when it's time for your shower, get your Maid of Honor and bridesmaids to send out invitations telling the guests for the shower that you're registered at AAA or which ever travel agency you've chosen.
2006-10-25 17:27:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Asking for holiday vouchers or cash is extremely poor taste.
If you can't afford your own honeymoon then don't get married.
If you have everything in your household that you desire, the ask your guests to donate to a charity of your choice.
2006-10-24 23:14:50 · answer #9 · answered by Jgirl 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I recently attended a wedding where they asked for money. I was a little offended by the money bit, but the best thing to do is ask for mney to be sent to your honymoon destination - people will feel they are giving you a real present that just cold cash.
2006-10-24 22:37:01 · answer #10 · answered by blacksmokerings 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋