My crush does like me, I am pretty sure. I like him too(a lot), and I don't know what to do. He's really sweet. My friends tell me to talk to him, but I am shy. Also, my parents don't allow me dating in HS. They're extremely strict! My dad will probably get mad if he finds out I like someone; he thinks it's a bit slutty. Ugh. I am a goody goody two shoes. All of my friends tell me they'd go out with their crush. My heart tells me to try to go out with him, but my brain tells me to listen to my logical side. What do I do?
I don't wanna hurt his feelings.
2006-10-24 08:47:46 · 22 answers · asked by kiki 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am 15.5, and I am a goody goody. I'm the kind of person who cares a lot about getting into a good college.
My parents just don't want me to date. period.
2006-10-24 08:52:39 · update #1
He's a really nice person. I think the only reason he hasn't asked me out yet (he knows I like him) is cuz someone told him I wasn't allowed to date.
2006-10-24 08:56:17 · update #2
Just remember that your parents love you and want to protect you from every thing that they can. Although it may not seem that way all the time they are pretty good character judges too.....many guys will go after the "goody two shoes" just to debunk that status..... so be careful and consider what you do with your brain not your heart -- you sound like an intelligent girl. Good luck!!
2006-10-24 08:52:07 · answer #1 · answered by akelaamy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My parents are really stict too, but not that strict. I am allowed dating.. How old are you? If your in grade nine or maybe even ten then yes I can see the whole not being able to date thing.. But in your senior years I think that is overdoing it. It doesn't mean your slutty if you like someone, or if you go out with them. I bet more than likely your parents dated in high school. Perhaps they are just doing this because they don't want to see you get hurt, but they are missing the big picture. Sure you must know that a high school relationship is going to have to come to an end sometime; whether it be harsh or not. But it is important to experience it anyway.. You can't live sheltered. Just follow what you think is right: Your head or your heart.
2006-10-24 08:54:21 · answer #2 · answered by . 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dealt with the exact same thing when I was younger. My parents were very strict Christians and I was a rowdy nihilistic punk. We battled, I hated them, and then moved out when I turned 18. Your best bet in my opinion, is to be honest with your parents. Don't hide things, don't lie. Remember this: You are in high school, relationships at this point are meaningless. Your emotions are insane right now. I snuck around with this girl and ended up creating a huge rift between my parents and myself. I still feel bad after the years for some of the horrible things I said and did to my parents. Don't ruin your relationship with the ones who care about you the most. Now everything is fine with my parents but it did take time. I may not agree with them but I still love them. Your parents will always be there for you, some guy will probably cheat on you and lie to you. I did it to girls, I know, almost all of us do it at some time. Just be honest, don't lie. Good luck and peace!
2006-10-24 08:57:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your parents while you may feel they are extremely strict, really do have your welfare at heart. So maybe you could consider a compromise, say ask if he can come over and you two work on homework. Take it a small step at a time with your parents. Believe me when I say that we only want to protect you from being hurt in anyway. We do understand your need to grow, but it's very very hard to let you go. Please be kind to your parents. Talk to them about how they would like you proceed. Try very hard to accept their terms, but work to convince them of the trust they can have in your choices. Good Luck! HUGS
2006-10-24 08:52:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your logical side. I know at your age that "dating" is in, and you are really starting to like guys. But by the way you described yourself (goody goody) and the way you described him (crush), then I wouldn't worry about it too much if your parents insist that you shouldn't date. Maybe a group activity at school you guys can hang out and "date" that way! Good luck and keep up your thoughts...they are great!
2016-05-22 08:41:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk to him. you can always invite him over and just consider him as a friend.
my parents don't let me date but I had boyfriends. But they didn't really do anything and if worse comes to worse and your dad gets mad then just act like you and your crush broke up. they don't have to know the real side. how old are you anyways?
2006-10-24 08:52:39 · answer #6 · answered by dana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to your parents! Maybe you cann come up with a comprimise! A ex. of a comprimise would be that you could be bf and gf with commitment, with no dating. OR...YOUR PARENTT COULD GO ON THE "DATES" WITH YOU!If they dont want to comprimise, than talk to your crush! Tell him that you like him, but you cant date yet, he'll understand, and if he really likes yo, or is any good, he will wait for you, Best of luck, Nicole
2006-10-24 08:51:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
how old are you?
i would listen to your parents. i know they are strict, but seriously, they wouldn't let anything harm you and they are older than you and you need to respect them , and respect that their experience gives them the knowledge to tell you right from wrong.
if this guy is as nice as everyone else says he is, then he will wait around for you.
you ccould also try a group date. its 'safer' than just one on one, and your parents would feel a bit safer.
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2006-10-24 08:50:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he really likes you and cares about your feelings, he'll understand your parent's restrictions and respect them. Just wait until you're allowed to date. There's no rush. Live your childhood as long as you can! It dissapears so quickly, and you wish for it back.
2006-10-24 08:50:41 · answer #9 · answered by trueblue 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do what ur heart tells u. It'll work out. That's what I did, and now I have a boyf. for 2 years and it's working out great.
2006-10-24 08:56:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋