Loss of weight, plastic surgery, going out, therapy, good sense of humor, nice clothes, smart flirtation, articulated talk and friends ... What would you do if you had tried it all for all your life long and had had but a few dates and one short-termed relationship, you had come to the conclusion that after all those years it is better to stop trying getting a partner and that you must focus on other things only. How not to become a bitter person and be nice and optimistic despite of this imposed loneliness that just might as well last forever???
2006-10-24 08:43:14 · 22 answers · asked by Graça 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is starting to make me so unsure of myself that I fear for my professional life etc...
2006-10-24 08:45:03 · update #1
Buy lots of toys? Sex is available for everyone. I am talking about a relationship.
2006-10-24 08:51:11 · update #2
Don't try so hard.
And don't look so hard.
2006-10-24 08:44:58 · answer #1 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to date more. "Only a few dates" means you are waiting for people to come to you instead of actively searching out prospects. And maybe you are being too picky? I had a friend who had something negative to say about every guy who asked her out- I finally told her to get over herself and now she has at least a date a week. Give everyone a chance who isnt completely miserable. You never know. And you'll learn more about yourself in the process and possibly notice things you are doing wrong in the dating game. And just try it out to have FUN. Actually looking for a long term relationship creates too many expectations. You'll find someone good when you are not looking for it.
2006-10-24 15:50:28 · answer #2 · answered by AGNY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being alone doesn't mean one has to be lonely. I live alone yet I am rarely lonely. I have friends who enjoy the same interests as myself. I go to college, I have a job, I date, I have wonderful hobbies that I pursue. I don't want a "forever" kind of relationship, I have no need to get married again or live with anyone. I don't feel the need to change my apperance with plastic surgery/crash/fad diets I am not that shallow of a person and my circle of friends doesn't contain that shallow of people.
2006-10-24 15:49:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you being yourself or something you think they want you to be? I am down to earth..the last relationship I was in, I was dumped for another woman...she is very sophisticated (so I am told), wears a lot of makeup, jewelry, fake hair piece..all that I don't do. Accept me as I am..if the man is truly attracted to you, he will love you for what you are..both inside and outside. Remember, clothes DO NOT make a person..it is what is inside that counts. Ask the Lord to put in your life who he wants you to be with. #10
2006-10-24 15:51:16 · answer #4 · answered by #10 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have seen numerous extremely unattractive people who dont dress well that are married. I dont think it has anything to do with that. Its something inside of you. Have you tried some counseling ? Why not go for a few sessions to see what inside you could be causing this.
2006-10-24 15:48:22 · answer #5 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a dog, cat, and bird and see what happens. seriously, having a companion isn't everyones goal in life. my grandmother was married and divorced 4 times, doesn't mean she was wrong, it means that certain people in life are ment to live alone. her hubbys used to beat her. she has vowed off ever finding anyone, and it does make her meldelsome in our lives, but at least she is happy.
all that cosmetic stuff won't make you happy. you have to find you , do what you want in life.
and if being beat all the time was my grandmothers life married, she refused to be married any longer. its better alone for her.
2006-10-24 15:46:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're probably not the only one who feels this way. I'm sorry i don't really have any answers, but some of the perfect, beautiful people have faults and are very fake. Stop trying to look and be perfect, people have to accept you as you are.
2006-10-24 15:51:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never say never. But IF you are not destined to find a life partner, there is nothing wrong with that. Cultivate your life so that it is fulfilling and worthwhile. Work, charity involvement, church, friends, hobbies, travel, etc...
2006-10-24 15:46:02 · answer #8 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray really hard and ask God why, he said in Jer. 33: 3 to call until him and ask him the most secret things I knowest not and he would tell me, and that would be the time for answers in my life; no man? Huh! Ask away!
Gayle
2006-10-24 15:46:47 · answer #9 · answered by gayle j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can never find the right one if you are looking for it.
it just happens. don't get me wrong you have to keep your eyes open.
is it possible you have too high standards try for someone nice. cute is not as important as you think(im ugly. my wife still likes me).
people like to be with someone that enjoys life. enjoy life and someone will find you.
2006-10-24 15:45:13 · answer #10 · answered by blackrealty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had so many partners that I could go for a long time without another.
2006-10-24 15:46:08 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋