You must leave "him" alone, but you just can't stop thinking about him. It's not obsession and it's not stalking. You have feelings for him, and think that he might aswell, but he doesn't want to admit to those feelings. Instead he say's " maybe we should backoff because of the distance between us". I want to respect his wishes, but I just can't let him go. Any suggestions on how I can do that?
At the same time, I know that if I don't leave him alone, he might end up hating me, and I don't want that.
Serious answers please.
2006-10-24 08:38:29 · 7 answers · asked by ☼ Latina Loca loves Yayo ☼ 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Remember the old saying, "If you love someone, let them go, if they come back, it was meant to be, if they don't, he was never yours to begin with." Men like a challenge, be a challenge to him by acting like it's no big deal to you and he'll come around.
2006-10-24 08:42:04 · answer #1 · answered by belleebuttons 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are several things to consider in one you have said.
Maybe the person in a compassionate way is trying to tell you that they have chosen someone else and wants to back away and not hurt your feelings. Or they may have some how fallen out of love with you because of your actions. Or they may not be the person you want or expect them to be. There are so many differents things that make a person back off from in a relationship it's impossible to list them all.
My suggestion would be to back off and find someone else. The more you push or try to force yourself on someone like this will only make it worse on yourself. Let it go and make a new life for yourself.
2006-10-24 15:51:02 · answer #2 · answered by AL 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone and put it in the hand of God...I been there and do what you are doing, you must have faith that all that is to be will come to past. If he is "Just not that into you" (a book) then please STOP and save yourself from hurting yourself. Men will take advantage as far as we will let them. Start a business, take a class...do something for you and you might met "Mr. Right" Good luck.
2006-10-24 15:42:21 · answer #3 · answered by Lovely B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Force yourself to establish distance. No phone calls, no e-mails, no texting. Just sever all ties until you can get over your clingy, desperate, stalkerish love-sickness. Don't lie to yourself about whether you are over him or not. It's simple; to let go, really LET GO.
2006-10-24 15:41:55 · answer #4 · answered by Leena Rosen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey, play it back at him. If he comes around, fine. If not, find another. There's plenty to chose from.
2006-10-24 15:42:50 · answer #5 · answered by GRUMPY1LUVS2EAT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so just back off for a while
2006-10-24 15:41:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
life's not a story. think wise and act in sense. leave/not leave.
2006-10-24 15:42:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋