Is there anything wrong with wanting to do more in life? I have 2 daughters who mean the world to me but want to do more. I've always wanted to be a labor and delivery nurse but I've wanted to even more since giving birth to my first child. It doesn't cost too much money to take classes but would it be too much? I know in my heart what I want but I just want other opinions.
2006-10-24 08:36:39 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Are parents supossed to give up on their dreams once they have children?
2006-10-24 08:38:27 · update #1
When you have kids, sometimes your dreams have to be placed on temparary hold, but you don't have to give up on them... If your dream is to become a Labor and Delivery Nurse... Take the required classes, you may have to take the classes over a bit more time than someone with out the responsibility of kids but you can do it...
With a bit of creative scheduling you can be a great mom and a great nurse... Don't be afraid to say "I can't do it all" ask for help from spouse or parents.... Don't be afraid that occassionally opting for take-out means you are somehow not a good mom... My mother always said "It's not important who cooked the food, what's important is who your dine with."
No you don't have to give up your dreams because you have kids... If you do you will begin slowly to resent the kids because you blame them for making your dreams impossible..
What's the best way to eat an elephant? One bite at a time... Get your fork and get started...
2006-10-24 10:23:42 · answer #1 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think bettering yourself by getting an education is EVER wrong. Think about it, you will be getting a job that pays well to help support your family, and it will be something you and your kids can be proud of. Plus you are proving to your kids how important it is to work hard for your dreams at any age. Aside from the fact it will make you happy, which always makes for a better parent in my opinion. As long as you make the most with the time you DO have to spend with your kids, I think it's great!!! GOOD LUCK
2006-10-24 09:03:26 · answer #2 · answered by purpledragonflyjrh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do this ... IT IS NOT HARD.. Plus its really rewarding. WHAT IS WRONG WITH HAVING AMBITIONS... HUMMMM
Its that... in a parent...... that makes you a good parent. What a great example .. how proud of you your kids can be.. ( but they are proud all ready... ) Your not wrong for having ambitions .. we all do.. especially if you really want to do something in this life. many people HATE WHAT THEY DO .. you strive to do something.. Go for it .. worry about the too much later... It may never come. really Do this for you.( imagine this . you take all the classes .. and your a labor nurse.. and you save a life... a life that only you could save.. god put you here to save and touch that persons life. ( I am not trying be religious .. but sometimes destiny and your future are a way to put you on a path.. that a higher call needs you on... DO IT >>>> think of all the lives you will touch... including your own..
2006-10-24 08:48:08 · answer #3 · answered by zachs mom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I honestly think some people do think we (moms) should be pushed aside so our children can excel. This shouldn't be the case. I feel that we should keep our identities. My husband does it so why can't I? For some reason some people don't think it's a bad thing for mothers to have dreams, ambitions, and goals that don't revolve around their children. I am actually struggling with that now that I've had my son. I don't know what I want anymore. I can only think of achievable goals for him. I wish I could find something to get my heart pumping again--some thing that flares my interest. In all I say go for it--you are lucky to have kept your views and goals in tact! You know what you want and you obtain that goal--I'm sure you're kids will be so proud of you.
2006-10-24 08:43:03 · answer #4 · answered by .vato. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is great that are are willing to further your career I say to go for it, it might be a bit hard on studying with kids but that doesn't mean you cant go through with it if you are very dedicated to it. I am 22 and on my second child I think that once by kids are a bit older and in school middle school or something I am going to finish college and become a physical therapist, I am waiting until they are in school because I cant concentrate even typing a e-mail while my son (3) is in the room playing let alone study and stuff, but if you think you can do it and want to do it bad enough you can definitely go for it.
2006-10-24 08:50:29 · answer #5 · answered by Lisha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if you do go to school for this and do start working you will not see your children as much however on the up side you will be making a lot of money and thats good for them. So i say go for it. Pay for there college and live your dreams all at the same time. Good for you we need more mothers like you in the world.
2006-10-24 08:39:50 · answer #6 · answered by littleluvkitty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a mother of three and I am back in school, only 6 more credits until I graduate! After this I will be going on to grad school and then possibly to get my Doctorate. I think that by going to school and working hard that I am giving my children a good role model. I love school and although I miss a few things in the long run it is what will be best for our family. Go for it!
2006-10-24 08:53:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong at all!!
You want it, you can do it! If you worry about it being too much, start with one class and see how it goes. That's what I did. The one class was easy but it helped me get into the mind set of student again. I am back in graduate school with three classes and I am loving every minute of not just the classes but I seem to still be able to be with my child and enjoy him too.
Of course, I am always tired, but I figure that is part of who I am right now!!
Good Luck!
2006-10-24 08:40:44 · answer #8 · answered by seaelen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go for it dear, if you are the ambitious kind and quit your dreams because of ur kids you'll resent them. Having children is not a life sentence, you can be a mother and a career woman.
My baby is 8 months old, i am head of purchase department at a famous TV channel and am starting Master in Project management in Jan, and i hope to have more kids ;)
So go ahead and follow your dreams, all you need is to be very organized and balance you time to have quality time with you children and time for yourself.
2006-10-24 08:57:34 · answer #9 · answered by Gal in red 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More education is never a bad thing, and personal growth is the only way to achieve a meaningful existence. Without growth, we stagnate into mobs of brute force. That having been said, nursing is tough stuff, and the rewards are not great monetarily.
2006-10-24 08:39:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋