We are looking into adoption, been to family services offices so many times it's unreal. I know they want to be sure that we are good people who will love and provide for this child but good grief! I'm getting so discouraged and wonder if anyone out there can help us get the ball rolling without so much red tape.
2006-10-24 08:26:01 · 5 answers · asked by what can i do 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I'm an adoption social worker and I advise you get a lot more patience because this could take YEARS.......
Despite what people think, there are not many babies who need homes CHILDREN yes....BABIES no!
You could go with a private agency that will charge you an arm and a leg for things special needs places do free........but special needs places don't have a lot of babies.
If you're in a bigger hurry you could try a private agency and do a foreign country, many are much quicker but you are talking $$$$$$. You have to travel to the country and such.
My girlfriend waited two years for her private domestic adoption....
Good luck, but this is a long process...occassionally there is a miracle child who just pops up (it has happened with my cases....but generally it takes a while!
2006-10-24 08:36:05 · answer #1 · answered by jm1970 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the child. Since the time when you were adopted, the culture has shifted toward greater openness regarding adoption, with a greater acceptance that every adopted child is entitled to have a relationship with both sets of parents. Even some who were adopted as newborns have a burning desire to know their biological parents, whereas others, like you, don't give it much thought. (In fact, the latest trend is "adopting back," in which adult adoptees seek to be re-adopted by their birth parents.) Babies aren't blank slates; each one has an inborn personality that may or may not mesh with your own. So there's no guarantee that any child (even one that's yours biologicially) will be as close to you as you were to your own mom. It may happen, which would be awesome, or it may not. So my advice is, if you have love to give, then adopt the child who needs you most. That may indeed be an older child. Older kids can languish for years in foster care, whereas newborns find homes immediately. But it really boils down to finding an answer that you and your husband can both agree on with enthusiasm. If it ends up as one of you imposing your own wishes on the other, then that's a red flag for your marriage.
2016-05-22 08:30:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do need the red tapes. Like you said, the agencies need to make sure that they are giving out the baby to somebody who is sane and able to take care of the baby.
2006-10-24 08:53:50 · answer #3 · answered by Bantree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go directly to the hospital. They have a thing where mothers can just give birth and drop the babys off there now. They would know how to adopt a baby in a fast rate. I have a freind who has done this, and there is much less red tape than going threw an agency. I am glad that you are willing to give your love to a great baby. good luck.
2006-10-24 08:29:52 · answer #4 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
It takes a while. My brother/sister in law have been on the list for over a year now and have only gotten calls to the staffing portin. Which means that they past the first round of "cuts" if you will. Good luck.
2006-10-24 08:53:47 · answer #5 · answered by tera_duke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋