My supervisor's boss shared something with me and I shared it with someone, now it came back and bit me in the butt. All I could do was admit I told it and kept apologizing. Help!
Unless someone tells me NOT to tell, I figure it's fair game to share.
2006-10-24 08:18:04 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
sean..., whatever the rest of your name, see I have no shame, even about myself. so to start a rumor would not effect me.
2006-10-24 08:29:59 · update #1
I've been called almost every name in the book, I think I'm immuned to name calling. The information shared, at the point when I shared it, I didn't realize it was confidential. It wasn't character deformation.
2006-10-24 08:32:36 · update #2
okay, Lady Pom I see what you're saying: it's like I have the Judas syndrome. Judas repented out of obligation and because he got caught. not for being sorry for his sins.
2006-10-24 09:02:22 · update #3
If someone comes to you and starts to spill out info that they dont want to share or if your not sure if you can share it or not just stop them mid-sentence and say "I dont want to know anymore" I am the type of person who cannot keep a secret so if you dont want it told dont tell me. THe person on the otehr end will respect your honesty.
2006-10-24 08:37:53 · answer #1 · answered by Kit 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree unless someone tells you NOT to tell or the feeling is mutual that it should not be shared then you have the right to make a judgement whether or not you can tell others. But you have to think of your opinions meaning how it can affect you if you do share this information whether or not it was fair game. Because if you are the only person that knows then obviously the person that told you would know for sure that it was you and you know if it would upset that person than the best thing to do is not tell anyone.
2006-10-24 15:28:57 · answer #2 · answered by Holla 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the same way too, if they don't specifically tell me not to tell anyone, then it's fair game, and they should be specific in telling you that they don't want you to share it with anyone. Just let your friends know that sometimes you slip. If they are real friends, then they'll forgive you, but you will have to work hard at gaining their trust back.
Don't worry. Anyone that hated on you for this are just too uptight. It's nice knowing that someone out there can admit that they make mistakes like you. Take pride in the fact that you are straight forward about things, but make sure that you work on not telling secrets around the work place, it just leads to bad things anyways.
2006-10-24 17:17:30 · answer #3 · answered by Tracey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the Bible it says for us to Put a Briddle on our Mouths. So pretend your doing that . Gossiping is bad. Working in an office is a place you don't want to gossip. After a while, you will become known as a big mouth. And other co-workers will shut you out and not tell you anything. It will take a long time, to prove you will be loyal. And a long time for them to forget what you did. Put your brain before your mouth.
2006-10-24 15:32:52 · answer #4 · answered by Norskeyenta 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A person should not have to tell you not to share something personal. Use common sense and think of how your gossipy mouth may hurt someones feelings or reputation.
Since you've made the mistake already and you've apologized the only left to do is not repeat it. That is the true sign of being apologetic.
2006-10-24 15:29:09 · answer #5 · answered by WonderWmn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, my solution for myself might work if you are at all concerned about what the Bible says. If you aren't, then it won't work.
Matthew 12:36 (New International Version) says:
But I tell you that men will have to give account on the day of judgment for every careless word they have spoken.
That works for me just about all the time. Sometimes it doesn't. I think we all have trouble with repeating things we shouldn't at some time or other.
2006-10-24 20:56:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop for a moment and listen to yourself. It sounds as if you care more about what others think of you than you care for yourself. (first in gossiping, then in repeatedly apologizing)
Consider whether you have a self esteem issue going on here. Focus on your accomplishments more, particularly in your work place. "Sharing" in this way is not a worthy pastime.
added:
On your comment to me -- wow, you are way ahead of me there! Wish I had said that, that was awesome :D
2006-10-24 15:58:01 · answer #7 · answered by LadyPom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they didn't tell you or imply that you are supposed to keep it to your self, ask yourself "If it were me, would I want someone telling others this information?" Use your best judgement. It is very easy to figure out if its something you need to keep to yourself or not. If you should keep it to yourself then just don't do it! If you find your self starting to spill the beans try changing the subject. You'll feel good about it too.
2006-10-24 15:30:05 · answer #8 · answered by emjay 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I too love Gossip but remember that you will be labeled as the "office gossip" and no one will want to tell you anything! Keep quiet and you learn so much more.
2006-10-24 15:26:34 · answer #9 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
start a rumor about yourself.
see how it feels to be talked about when you're not there to straighten things out. or refute viscious lies and gossip.
2006-10-24 15:26:00 · answer #10 · answered by seanachie60 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋