She said that she is intrigued by me & that the best thing would be for me to be her friend right now. i see her almost everyday and she calls me or i'll call her sometimes. we hang out and talk a lot. her ex broke up with her recently after a five year relationship and he is also trying to go out with her, but when he found out about the kissing between me and her he went insane. she says that she still loves him, but doesn't know how much longer she'll put up with his attitude & makes excuses for him. i don't know what she sees in him. he's definitely way uglier than me and more immature. now, that she isn't with him she has no friends at college except me and her ex is back home so i feel like i'm the only one she can count on. if i left her now she would think that i was only after one thing. she said that she would understand if i didn't want to be her friend when i explained how much the situation sucks. sometimes i feel that if i took more action i might win her over
2006-10-24 08:12:17 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like she is still very hooked on this guy. So she probably does have feelings for you but she's confused. A lot of women stay with men because they feel they've invested too much time, energy and emotion in a relationship just to give it up. Five years is a long time. It is going to take time for her to fully get over this guy. Regret is a hard thing to let go of.
I'm guessing that she either A. really does have feelings for you AND/OR B. is using you as a rebound whether she knows it or not.
Right now she wants to feel wanted, adored, safe and loved. If you are really interested in a relationship with her give her that and some time to heal. Don't push things or make her feel guilted into going out with you. Just be there for her.
2006-10-24 08:38:43 · answer #1 · answered by bellelayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Five years is a lot of time to sort out in a break-up. You need to give her some space. She might have even broke up becasue she realized she had some feelings for you and not for her high school sweetheart.
A little more action would be good, but be prepared for the possiblility that she will decide to return to him.
Do nice things for her, bring her little gifts, make her laugh when she's sad. Do these things, no strings attached, and don't place too much hope in it. If she's meant to be yours in the end, you can't run or hide anywhere, she'll catch up to ya.
2006-10-24 15:20:29 · answer #2 · answered by MisterO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for her and just have a great time!!!
2006-10-24 15:16:53 · answer #3 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find someone else. She's not worth it.
2006-10-24 15:18:49 · answer #4 · answered by bestwomanberry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MAKE HER PAY FROR THE MOVIE YOU WATCHED
2006-10-24 15:15:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-10-24 15:22:35 · answer #6 · answered by dollface 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋