My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months and he has asked me to marry him. Some say its too soon and others tell us to go for it if we really do love each other. Is there a time limit for us to decide when to get married?
2006-10-24 08:03:55 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are sure that you love one another, go for it! I only knew my wife for about 7 months before I proposed. We got married after about 9 months and we have been together for 35 years so far. Some scorners don't believe in love at first sight, but I do. Just please please please make sure that you want to commit to a marriage - it is not all wine and roses, and it is a lot different from single life. Good luck, and follow your hearts not your spectators.
2006-10-24 08:12:19 · answer #1 · answered by Doug R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think there is any appropriate or right time to get married. I know from personal experience that everyday you will find out something new about your partner. So dont expect to get married and have things be the way they are right now for the rest of your lives, and dont assume that you know absolutely everything about each other either. I think that the longer you are with a person the more you learn. I would say that if you guys have a very close, open, and honest relationship, you will be fine. Congratulations :)
2006-10-24 08:19:05 · answer #2 · answered by Natalie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can only answer this question based on my personal philosophy. I have what's called a "1 to 5" plan. That means if we haven't been together for at least a year, I don't think I know him well enough to accept his marriage proposal, but if we've been together for more than 5 years and he hasn't made a move towards marriage proposals yet, then it may well be time to move on. Now a lot of my friends don't agree because they feel that they would be throwing away 5 years of their life, but I say to think of the time you could be getting to know your "soul mate" after having moved on from the one who probably wasn't. Some people believe in love at first sight. I do, as well, but there is a difference in loving someone and knowing someone. Anyway, this could get much longer than I plan if I continue to go on. Only you and your significant other know when the time is right. Examine not only your heart, but also your head. If they are both in agreement that what you feel is genuine, then go for it. But make sure your HEAD AND your HEART are on the same page. It can't be one and not the other. Follow them and good luck in your decision.
2006-10-24 08:16:41 · answer #3 · answered by Sherbert 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is a time limit. I have met people who knew each other a week before they got married and they are still very much in love. Only you know if you are ready, the heart always knows i say. Goodluck.
2006-10-24 08:08:04 · answer #4 · answered by OE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the usual(and this is just my opinion) time is 1 year to 1.5 years. 7 months is good also as long as there aren't any hidden secrets on either side of this. plus you can be engaged now and plan the wedding late 2007. that gives you more time to decide if you want to marry him.
2006-10-24 08:08:11 · answer #5 · answered by kurtball2004 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think when it is best if u really know each other well i cant say 7 months is too soon to me i think if u really know each other well like for example u have or mosty the same interests and talked about what u want in life and really in love and ready for marrage and u both talked about it i say go for it and follow ur heart that is always the best
2006-10-24 08:10:12 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
time limits are pointless. if you love him and want to marry him do it when you are ready, not when others say you should. 3 weeks after my husband and i met we agreed to marry.and 3 months after meeting we married. we have been married for 7 years and have three kids. we are very happy and very much in love. good luck i hope this helped.
2006-10-24 08:14:21 · answer #7 · answered by Thumbs down me now 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was engaged after 3 months we have been together a total of 6 and we new of each other a long time and never talked. It depends how happy he makes you and make it a long term engagement
2006-10-24 08:10:12 · answer #8 · answered by Harbor R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no there is never a time limit... marriage is not a game... it is something you have to spend your entire life with and in... if you both know each other very well.. and you both are able to handle everything together then ... YES... you should go for it... but also think about the fact that if you have an argument god forbid... you will get over it...
2006-10-24 08:08:20 · answer #9 · answered by lovingmalini 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey 7 months is perfect
get married girl!
and good luck!
2006-10-24 08:16:11 · answer #10 · answered by Pinky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋