If a White guy was laying it on heavy and flirting with you, you went on just a couple of high class dates. Later you found out he was laughing behind your back. Saying that if he were to get in a serious relationship, it would only be with a Caucasian woman. Then you also found out he really preferred marriage to a same race woman, but just used Black girls for sex every now and then, what would you do if you found out you were pregnant? What would be your next step in this situation?
2006-10-24 08:03:50 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hello all, thanks for the reply, as I said this person said himself and so did his friends he has a Whites only policy with relationships which of course I did not find out until afterwards..
How silly to think that sex makes you not a racist. I guess you forgot slavery. Just because a White has sex with a Black does not mean he/she even likes Blacks. Plenty of men sleep with people they hate. Does Scott Peterson/Lacy Peterson ring a bell. Sex has never equaled love or respect, especially in America. It's called being horny. Racists and nutbags get honry too.
2006-10-24 09:26:06 · update #1
If he is racist toward you, he will also be toward the child
2006-10-24 08:08:10 · answer #1 · answered by Sunspot Baby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, obviously it's too late to tell you that YOU SHOULD HAVE USED PROTECTION. I assume you know his correct name and address? And I also assume that you are absolutely possitive that this IS his child? A paternity test won't prove otherwise? Then have your child, raise your child, and sue for child support. And get every penny that you get out of him. And make sure that you get full custody of your child. No joint custody, and limit his visitation rights. And don't tell him that you are pregnant until toward the end of your third trimester. Don't give him any chance to weasel out of anything. And whatever you do, don't ever EVER talk to him alone ever again. From here on out this is a legal issue and you need family or friends or some sort of witnesses with you. And go on the pill, use a condom, and don't ever do this again!
2006-10-24 17:29:02 · answer #2 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is he racist because he really is or because he doesn't want to have an interracial marriage and to you that means you are just a peice of ***.
If this is an unwanted child I suggest first you get an abortion. If he doesn't want to be with you, having his baby will not keep him there and it will only put the unwanted child in a world of misery and hurt and it will certainly ruin your life and your hopes and dreams.
If he is the violent type and you want the baby, your best bet is to break off all contact with him, have the baby, then sue for child support.
If he is not, then just tell him.
My guess though is that he is not in fact racist, he just doesn't want to have an interracial relationship.
Interracial relationships are common almost without thinking about it today but some people still have the hang up, and don't want to deal with the "clash of cultures" when you are in a serious relationship or marriage. It might not be fair or PC, but you can't fault them for it.
Personally I think if you did want a serious relationship and hung around a guy who didn't because of race, you are the foolish one for hanging around and not dumping him then, AND moreso if youthought you could get him to change.
2006-10-24 15:12:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Some people on here helped you and some didn't. Some just scolded you. Everyone makes mistakes. I know you meant well and that guy just took advantage. I just wanted to tell you that I am truly sorry. I'm sorry for your pain and what has happened to you. I hope you have a beautitful healthy baby and that its father comes around one day. God Bless.
2006-10-26 17:47:10 · answer #4 · answered by Do_As_Infinity 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, he is not racist, he is just a coward and a jerk because he can't face his true feeling and stand up for your relationship with him. Secondly, I think you should do whatever feels right for you and your baby, even if that means raising the baby on your own, or putting it up for adoption. However, I would tell him about the baby, just to be fair to him and make him pay child support if you do decide to raise the baby by yourself. GOOD LUCK AND HANG IN THERE!!!
2006-10-24 15:27:10 · answer #5 · answered by ♥♥Bree♥♥ 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
that guy is wrong for being like that. if he has sex w/ black girls for fun then he should be aware that he could get someone pregnant. He might just be talking s*** u need to tell him and go from there.
2006-10-24 15:11:58 · answer #6 · answered by michelecmof4 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he were a true racist he would not have had sex with you or even been seen with you. He's obviously just a premium jerk. Race the baby yourself or give it up for adoption.
2006-10-24 15:10:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think that peoples opinions of race go out the door when they see children. He might be angry that you are pregnant and you only went on a few dates but I don't think the race of the child will be an issue. It will be his flesh and blood and you can't hate someone who is a part of you. I wish you the best with letting him know.
2006-10-24 15:15:48 · answer #8 · answered by Jeni_Li 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Keep the baby, the child has nothing to do with his ignorance and maybe he will mature and come to his senses when he finds out the truth.
2006-10-24 15:08:09 · answer #9 · answered by BabyGirl 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hes doing you how can he be rascist? And the Baby is Half Black and Half White! Not just Black! If he is a real man he will step up and take care of that child white black green or brown. if he doesnt get his *** for child support.
2006-10-24 15:13:03 · answer #10 · answered by feargov 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Assuming you are serious ....Shame on you for allowing yourelf to be used in such a fashion, after knowing this about him, and double shame on you for not protecting yourself from pregnancy while knowing this about him. As far as what to do...Treat it like any other man who gets a woman pregnant. Best of luck
2006-10-24 15:08:41 · answer #11 · answered by raykpcs 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋