I been w/my boyfriend for 8 mths. He has been divorced for 2 yrs & has a 12 yr old daughter. About 2 mths ago I met his daughter & she is the sweetest thing & her & I got along really good. Last month my b/f & I moved in 2gether & thing is her mom calls late asking stupid question 2 my b/f that r none of his concern anymore, things I think she should handle on her own (they r divorced) Also the other night he & I got into a big fight & he bought some liquor & got drunk @ the house. Well he called 2 talk 2 his daughter b/c they talk every night & he asked 2 speak 2 her after they hung up, her mom called right back & asked my b/f if he was drunk, he said "I'm fine, I'm fine...bye, what? No, I am fine & hung up." That's all I heard & he told me she was asking if he was drunk. My thing is y is it any of her business. My b/f told me well she knows me (they were married for 10 yrs.) But regardless I think it's disrespectful her calling if it doesn't involve his daughter. Am I wrong?
2006-10-24 08:02:15 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do I think she is out of line? Hummm Yes and No. From your point of view I can see where it would start to get on your nerves, but what you have to understand is that they have this relationship and have had it this way probably since the divorce. If it doesn't bother him he is going to keep going along with it. Maybe you should talk to him about your concerns and ask him if things will change. But just because they speak on a cordial basis doesn't mean that she wants him back nor him want her...they have history, its the past.
2006-10-24 08:09:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're wrong to be shacking up with a man who has a 12 year old child. You're not being a positive, healthy role model. Move out.
The mother of his child should be free to call whenever she wants to, and if the father is drinking, she has the right to know in order to protect the child. Actually, this whole thing really isn't any of your business, and by shacking up with a man out of wedlock with a child witnessing this, you're disrespecting yourself.
2006-10-24 08:06:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is WHY are you still there?????????????
He needs to cut ties with his X.
If he is acting like this.......the future will be worse.
And he gets drunk??????? I don't know mature adults that get drunk. He has a drinking problem and an X problem. And he is'nt mature enough to stay sober. WHAt exactually is attractive about this looser guy?
Why put up with this behavior? What about your past makes you think it is ok to put up with this behavior?
Time for you to learn to stand on your own without a dysfunctional guy. He will just get worse.
You can't change your bf or his X , But YOU Can CHANGE how you deal with it..........DON"T deal with it...get out of the relationship asap.
Grow up and learn to stand on your on. Then find a guy who is worthy of a good woman.
2006-10-24 08:09:55 · answer #3 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, obviously they couldn't get along, so no, she sholdn't be calling if it isn't about their child. But heads up, on him, watch yourself, there maybe more to meets the eye as to why they divorced. It would be completely different if you had met the ex, and she seemed like a decent person, but who knows....
2006-10-24 08:06:36 · answer #4 · answered by Fuzzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably you are....be secure enough to let your man talk to who he wants and trust him, if you cant trust him then get rid of him. I talk to my ex and my husband is good with it, some ppl stay 'friends' (we dont live in the same town or see each other tho) cuz if he really wanted to talk to her he would find a way anyway. and it may not be her business but let him decide that, dont try to force anything. (it may be disrespectful on her part, but then there are Alot of disrespectful ppl out there:)
2006-10-24 08:08:55 · answer #5 · answered by lili t 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The BEST thing we EVER did was buy our kids cell phones.. that way if the child wants to or needs to talk to their dad, or me if they are with them, they can, NO QUESTIONS asked.. and on the other hand, their dad can call them and completely bypass me.. I NEVER have to talk to him and that is just great.
For us, it was the best solution, because that way it is a conversation with their dad or their mom, and cut out the other parent.
worked wonders for us.
2006-10-24 08:06:55 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U really can't do anything about it cause it's your b/f's troubles and his ex's, when u get in the middle of it your just getting yourself introuble cause there problems aren't yours. Divorse is a hard thing. The best thing to do is stay out of it and if he need someone to talk to then let him talk to you.
2006-10-24 08:11:48 · answer #7 · answered by Mysterious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bull crap to all that, she has no business to bug you if it does not involve his kid. they have to keep communications open for the daughters sake but outside of that, no.
my ex and i talk when it comes to our daughter but we have gone on with are lives outside of that.
2006-10-24 08:11:19 · answer #8 · answered by di05712 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋