he used to be a horrible person. He used to use heroin, steal, and look for fights. Now, he won't touch drugs and has given up all his old friends. Do I trust this guy?
Subquestion:
He also has his junk pierced. Anybody with any experience with this sort of thing? Does it hurt?
2006-10-24 07:56:45 · 7 answers · asked by Pirate Hooker 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't judge the guy by what he used to do.
If he is clean off drugs, you should be congratulating him, not running from him.
Sorry, no experience with the 'junk pierced' area. I doubt it hurts, I'm sure it feels weird at first though, but if you don't even think you trust this guy and aren't sure what you should do, why are you even thinking about whether or not his piercing will hurt you?
2006-10-24 08:00:53 · answer #1 · answered by Barbi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say whether or not you want to even consider dating him is a matter of choice, but I'd move slowly and cautiously. I'd sure take the time to get to know him LONG before I'd worry about his junk being pierced. Rushing into sex is likely to make you too attached, way too soon. If you do that, you may end up not wanting to see the problems that may show up.
If you actually do it the old-fashioned way and put off sex for some time, you will get a better idea as to his true character and whether or not he is trustworthy.
He might well be a whole new person; or not. Only time and holding yourself back until you can truly answer that question "can I trust him" is going to give you a good answer.
Otherwise, pass this one up. There are PLENTY of fish in the sea that don't have all that ugly baggage.
One way or another, his history IS going to haunt him for the rest of his life. It could be as simple as nightmares, or as complex as blood diseases (like HIV, HEP B or C, all of which are VERY possible given the history of IV drug use). He could still have some scary enemies hunting him down. Also relapse is pretty common with former addicts. That's why IF you choose to date him, you should exercise a lot of caution before you risk your heart and your health.
I don't know much about personal piercings. I would be concerned about them impacting condom reliability (unless he removes the piercing, I'm thinking they might present a hazzard). You are definitely going to want to be diligent with condoms unless you personally see him handed a "clean" bill of health from a reputable sexual health clinic.
As to a hazzard to you, I doubt it. No man is going to do anything to his body that is going to get him less sex!
2006-10-24 15:06:41 · answer #2 · answered by Lori A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a pretty messed up person, so you 2 will probably make a nice couple. Go for it.
2006-10-24 15:01:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would....RUN FOR THE HILLS!!!!!
Nobody can change that much its all a lie to bed you. I bet he will go back to his old self and if he does just remember I TOLD YOU SO!!!!
2006-10-24 15:04:07 · answer #4 · answered by sexy chick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say befriend him first make sure he is sincere about giving everything up, if you think he is than go for it.
2006-10-24 15:00:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometime but i say don't get too closed that all i have to say
2006-10-24 14:59:08 · answer #6 · answered by kenisha_ma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get to know him, maybe it might work
2006-10-24 15:00:40 · answer #7 · answered by Erriyberry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋