I have a friend i met online, i talked about him before, but we are really close, we can talk to each other about anything, and if we were in the same state we would probaly be together, we both fell in love with each other but circumstances just didn;t allow us to be together at this time and we are both seeing other people. I have come to terms with us just being friends , but its hard at times because i just started a new relationship , which i really like this guy we spend alot of time together and we are really trying to get to know each other. but my friends stayas on my mind, how can i overcome this, has anyone had this problem before. should i tell my boyfriend how i feel or just try to get over it.
2006-10-24 07:29:21 · 11 answers · asked by Sexy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe my question should be should i tell my boyfriend that i have a male friend that i am this close to and that we have feelings but choose not to act on them. I just don;t want to seem like i'm hiding anything, but my boyfriend is somewhat the jealous type.
2006-10-24 07:53:23 · update #1
I've been in a similar situation and you have to decide which one you want to be with. If the new guy knows that you have feelings for this friend, he's probably not going to like it very much. Would you stay with a guy who had feelings for someone else? I sure wouldn't! Be very careful and listen to your heart AND your head. I've broken up with several guys I was dating because a close friendship with a different guy meant more to me than the guy I was dating did. It's a tough choice. Boyfriends come and go - friends tend to stay! 6 years later, this guy is STILL my best friend. It's worth it.
2006-10-24 08:26:37 · answer #1 · answered by atxtallchick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the main thing is to be as supportive as possible with whatever you say and do. If this guy doesn't want to be with her that is up to him to tell her but as gently as he can as she might have an eating disorder which will spiral her depression and make things worse. Tread gently. If you really want to be with this guy you should wait for a while, plus does he return the feelings to you? Have you seen her eating pattern? If you are best friends there have probably been signs however so little. Also does this guy sound like the guy for you if he doesn't want to be with someone who is too skinny or flat chested. Poor thing, she is your best friend and you are letting him be so cruel. It doesn't matter how skinny or fat a person is or big their bust is. It is the person they are. Just be there for her as he is obviously going to dump her and if you think she is anorexic talk to her family as it is a mental and physical disease. Good luck and hope it all turns out for all of you.
2016-05-22 08:21:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm I've had the same problem. Do not, I repeat, do not tell your boyfriend. It will not be good for the relationship and he doesn't have to know. See how things go with your new boyfriend first. Try to talk to your friend less often so that you dont think about him as much. Give yourself some time to find out where your true feelings are.
2006-10-24 07:43:17 · answer #3 · answered by Trinity 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may be in love with the chase and not the man. If you both loved each other- really, truly, madly- you would find a way to be together. Sometimes that thing that feels like love, is more like excitement.
2006-10-24 07:32:03 · answer #4 · answered by Gotham*City*Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I DON'T THINK YOU SHOULD TELL YOUR CURRENT BOYFRIEND ABOUT THIS SO CALLED LOVE YOU GOT FOR SOME OTHER GUY. IT'LL KILL HIM. JUST WAIT IT OUT. IN TIME IT SHOULD GO AWAY. PLUS YOU MIGHT TALK OVER THE PHONE AND ON-LINE BUT YOU NEVER BEEN AROUND HIM BEFORE. SO HOW YOU KNOW YOU LOVE HIM? HE SOUND MORE LIKE A FRIEND THEN A LOVER TO ME
2006-10-24 07:38:34 · answer #5 · answered by samlha83 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take some time and really examine your feelings.
If that fails go to see this friend of your from another state you will find you answer there.
If you can't live without him, then you will know.
If you can, then you will still know.
Goodluck
2006-10-24 07:53:16 · answer #6 · answered by Doc M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when it comes to meeting friends online you have to be careful no matter how " real " they seem to be, people lie and probably always will, now if you are in a good strong relationship why throw it away you can still talk to your friend and be in your relation ship and if the relationship fails then you always have your friend!! hope i helped!!
2006-10-24 07:33:45 · answer #7 · answered by Dakota H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u should jus forget about ur feelings for ur friend nd try 2 keep the relationship wit ur bf
2006-10-24 07:33:23 · answer #8 · answered by liciabonnie92 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him and if he's a good bf then he'll stay with you and help u get over it
2006-10-24 07:31:56 · answer #9 · answered by angel93lindsay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know this is really hard but you have to just go with your heart and i know it can be hard...
trust yourself and you instincts
2006-10-24 07:35:14 · answer #10 · answered by dancer_babe357 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋