I met them both recently. I can't stop thinking about the first one. he is so wonderful and we both agreed to take things slow. I have a feeling he may be seeing someone else or feels unsure about me. He kissed me for the first time 2 nights ago and invited me on a trip for new years. Then there's this other guy I met last week who is also very nice. He seems like he is more ready to jump into this than I am so i feel unsure but he is a great person so far. I just don't know if it would be right to date both. I have no strings to either one really. Would it be wrong for me to date them both? Should I just put the 2nd guy on hold for now?
2006-10-24 07:27:48 · 8 answers · asked by SweeT 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"I can't stop thinking about the first one. he is so wonderful and we both agreed to take things slow".
I think there's your answer right there. You can't stop thinking about him (you even made him guy number 1) so you like him more than the second guy.
You agreed to take things slow so there is a commitment there, so if you continuing to see the second guy it is wrong unless guy number 1 knows about the second guy and is OK that you can both see other people.
2006-10-24 07:38:09 · answer #1 · answered by Ben R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with dating two at once, as long as you are honest, and let them know that you are in the shopping mode. You should tell each one what you like about them so that they will not feel intimidated or used. Do not let yourself be put into the position so that you feel obligated in any way. Don't accept expesive gifts or money, be your own person.
Now I am 57 years old and that is the way we used to do it. I have dated several girls at once, and we always took one day at a time, and enjoyed each other without all the pressure and restrictions. Granted, some were not into sex at that time, but others were, and it was nice.
2006-10-24 07:39:05 · answer #2 · answered by compassion 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once i dated two women at the same time. i liked them both and each person i was with was real good . it was the in between stuff that killed me . i think by seeing two people at the same time i never really developed any real true deep emotional relationship with either one of them. hence all i felt was i being rushed.
its not really fair to the people your seeing and its not fair to your self
if your just having a good time that's all that it will be ( and that's fine if that what you want]
i guess the real question is if your starting to get emotional with one person i don't think it wise to date the other
2006-10-24 07:57:16 · answer #3 · answered by sam 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you need them both when it sounds like you like #1? If he wants to take it slow, take it slow. There is no need to rush into things, especially when you are just getting to know him. If he is what you want go for him, but if there are any reservations about it listen to yourself. Your basically asking "can I be with one boy that I like, while dating another that likes me?" Why don't you go out and find someone whom you like and feels the same and possesses all the qualities your looking for
2006-10-24 07:40:40 · answer #4 · answered by Pirate Hooker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U got to get rid of one cause in the end u probably lose both.So follow your heart and do the right thing by getting rib of one. Double life is not fun
2006-10-24 07:35:04 · answer #5 · answered by freakynicole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you're open and honest with them. Let them both know that you are seeing other people. Honesty is always the best policy.
2006-10-24 07:36:07 · answer #6 · answered by beckybrowneyes85 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do whatever you want, but don't tell either that you're dating them exclusively and be dishonest about it. And be so careful if you do go further and start having sex. Use protection!!!
2006-10-24 07:30:47 · answer #7 · answered by atxtallchick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only if they don't know about each other
2006-10-24 07:29:37 · answer #8 · answered by three6ty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fu*kin Whore
2006-10-24 07:31:36 · answer #9 · answered by winterlinda21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋