Should I tell my mom I'm not a virgin?

Question

I had this boyfriend that was cheering me up cause I was upset and we ended up having sex and he got me pregnant then bailed on me like 3weeks later cause he didn't want me to have it and I didn't want to kill a baby so we broke up then like a month I ended up losing the baby and I still haven't told my mom and I'm only 15 years old and I made a big mistake

Answer 1

wow girl i think you should tell her she could help or make things wosrt but you should get it off your chest

Answer 2

I Would Tell Her. I was In Your Shoes I Was 14 And Got Pregnant My Mom WAS Upset But She Felt Better Knowing That We Had The Kind Of Relationship Where We Can Talk. My Daughter Is Now 8 And If In 6 Or & Years She Experiences The Same Thing I Would Definitely Want Her To Tell Me Yes I Would Be Upset And Hurt But I Would Feel Better That My Daughter Was Able To Talk To Me When She Had An Issue.

BTW If You Had A Miscarriage You Need To Go To The Doctor, You Can Have Some Serious Problems And You Might Not Be Able To Have Kids In The Future If You Don't Get Looked At.

Good Luck

Answer 3

I think most people would say yes - because your mistake definitely illustrated that you need guidance. I started having sex when I was 15 as well, but I studied up on birth control and protected myself every time. I never told my mother because it was a personal decision I made on my own and it would only hurt her. You need to decide if telling her is best for you. It might take this weight off your shoulders- as upset as she will be. If you decide not to- take what happened to you as a hard earned lesson in life. Use protection- and better yet stop having sex if you dont think you'll be able to protect yourself properly. A guy might not stick around if you do get pregnant and your whole life will be changed. I am so sorry that you lost the baby, that is always hard- but look at this as a second chance to live your life to the fullest. And definitely go to a doctor for a check up to make sure you are ok -especially after a miscarriage.

Answer 4

I guess it depends on how your relationship with your mom is. I know my kids come to me about everything. They know that even if I get mad, it doesn't mean I don't love them anymore.
It sounds like you want to tell her, you need her for support right now. Getting pregnant so young and then losing the baby is very hard and will have long lasting memories.
So I guess to answer your question, I would tell your mom and remember, that this can happen again if you're not careful. If a guy really loves you as much as he says he does, he won't push you to have sex or will he leave if you end up pregnant.
You're young, enjoy your life now, you don't have to have sex to have a great relationship with a boyfriend.

Answer 5

I think I would want to know if my daughter was going through something this serious. How did your Mom not know that you had a miscarriage? Are you close with your Mom? The thing is, kids feel as if their parents were never teenagers before, and then you have parents who forget the mistakes they've made. I think it would be up to you to tell your Mom. I'm sure this will be hard for her as well but you may be surprised how understanding and supportive she is. I hope this helps. Good luck

Answer 6

When you lose a child you bleed for a longer period of time than usual. I am sure if you and your mother are close at all that she had noticed that. I think it is important to let her know not cause she needs to be informed of your every move but because you need someone to talk to about all the feelings that you might be having. Losing your virginity, getting pregnant and losing a child are all things that I believe will weight very heavy on your mind if you don't get them out. Besides if you don't discuss it with someone who is older and has more life experience you might be prone to put yourself in difficult situations again. I am sorry all these things happened to you but I do feel that it is important that you discuss them with someone even if it is not your mother.

Answer 7

It depends on the relationship you have with your mom. If its a trusting one then yes. Take her out somewhere that you can talk alone. Like a park. Explain everything to her and why you did it and what happened. Then tell her that you realize that it was a big mistake and if she will take you to a clinic to get STD tested. If your mom doesn't trust you or you aren't very close then this may be what can bring you closer together. Give your mom a chance she may surprise you. Good luck.

Answer 8

if you tell yur mom she can help with the loss you feel from loosing the baby
she can also help you get on birth controll so this wont happen again until you are ready to have a child
she may be mad at first but hopefully she will cool down and help you throught this trying time
ive had 7 misscarrages in 6 yrs its hard on the soul and heart mabey she will see it from that point of view good luck and all the best

Answer 9

YES! You should tell your mother. It might be the best thing you do. I am sure she will be up-set with you but at least she will know. Also, you should tell her the name of the boy that got you this way. And why would you a 15 year ole girl have sex, muchless un-protected sex?. Is there a Father in your life? if there is and you need to tell him the bad news also. The thing you did will stay with you the rest of your life. You despertly need someone to talk to. Your parrents might understand.

Answer 10

With all of this going on, the first person you should have told, should have been your Mom. Now you need to be on birth control, and put more energy into your school work, You are too young to be dealing with a baby, school, and boy problems. You should be having fun, enjoying life, belonging to a lot of clubs. Don"t grow up too fast, You can never get your childhood back, so enjoy it!

Answer 11

Please talk to you mother. You are reaching an age where you need all of the good advice a mother can give. Plus, the advantage of a solid relationship between parent and child is priceless.

You are lucky it's even an option to talk to her. What about having no parents to talk to? Do the right thing, and open up to your parent(s). You may not see the ultimate benefits right away, but the benefits are ultimate in due time.

Now that all of the total strangers on Yahoo answers know, isn't it about time someone who loves you knows?