what do men think about single mothers?

Question

I have a little boy. His father is an *** and I can provide a better enviroment for my child to live in. I am a college graduate, and I don't need to depend on a man. I am perfectly capable of taking care of my son and my self. Do you think men will love kids (who aren't theirs) as much as their own? Do men get scared when a woman has a child from a previous relationship? what exactly do men think about single mother?

Answer 1

I cant tell you what men exactly think of a single mother because they are soo unpredictable and some arent even man's enough to deal with such cases. Put one thing i must say is that Im proud of you for looking beyond what is in front of you, and having tht mentality that yo could come up on life on your own feet and being a single mother. Because being a single mother doesnt mean yall are handicap or something it just means that theres a little angel you gotta look after now and thats is not only about you but about him/her now.......so keep your head up and be successful in life and show society and those dirtbacks that we dont need them and that we are strong enough and capable of providing for the family. Im not a mother but i do understand your position because of my aunt whos a single mother......and my own mother who met my stepdad when i was about 2 yrs old and is the only dad i have and will ever have remember a real father is not who created you but rather stood by your side thru those hard times, and took time to raised you to be who you are now. There are good men out there like there are some bad ones and yes there are some men who are capable of loving your kids even though they arent their biological father. My Dad gave me a bachelors degree in criminal jsutice, a nice life and everything a girl could ask for since he came into my life at the age of 2 yrs old and now im 22 and he is still doing so and im proud and glad he is my dad and that God send him to my mother to help her raised me and my other brother.......which now theres 2 more kids a little sis and a little bro whos 13 the youngest but it seems to get better ,and he has always said that no matter what he has 4 kids, and that no one will ever change........so hey i believe you could find someone whos gonna love you and love your kid(s) no matter what.......but remember if they dont love your kids they could never love you and that is a fact aiight so Good luck and God bless you and hope things only get better.

Answer 2

I guess many men are more hesitant, but I wasn't and am glad of it. A good man won't care and hey, why would you wan't to be with someone who is not that good of a man?

My experience (being a good man, I hope...) When I was back out in the single world though, I came to the conclusion (having two of my own) that I could learn more about a woman's qualities by how she interacted with her kids than in any other way -- and that proved to be correct.

As in, I am recently remarried and have 3 new step-kids. Who don't necessarily like or respond well to having a new authority figure in their lives, but are starting to thrive from having a dad.

Blended families can be a tough go, though. If you find yourself in this particular set of circumstances, do not feel hesitant to start off early in the marriage with family counseling resources available for yourself, your new mate, and the kids. You will be surprised at some of the weird family dynamics that come up, and having a counselor to discuss things with definitely helps.

Good luck in the mean time, and I hope God's blessings are with you and all single moms.

Answer 3

I can tell you from personal experience that YES we men can love a child that are not theirs by blood just as much as if they were!! I adopted my late wife's two boys when they were 5 and 6 years old and I loved them just as much as my daughter that is mine!! I can also tell you that a child can love a man (or woman), that is not their "BIRTH" parent just as much as if they were!! I was adopted myself !! I didn't care that my late wife had been married before (most people now days have been married or had a relationship with some else), I feel in love with her for who she was then, not who she had been with in the past!! Yes to be honest most people (men and woman) are at least a little bit scared when the other one is a single parent, and that they would be entering a relationship with a "ready made family" but they become less and less scared within a very short time!! I looked at the adoption of my boys as being the same as when my parents adopted me (my parents both died)!! What if the other parent had passed away?? Would that make a difference?? I guess it would for some, yet for most of it does not make any difference!! Admittedly, it is difficult sometimes if the other parent is still very involved with the children, but if you really love the parent, then you have to love her (his) kid(s) that is a very large part of that person and who they are!!

Answer 4

It depends. Your dating pool is definitely a reduced one than women without kids. Many men, like me need time to prepare for fatherhood. With a planned pregnancy you are given that time. In case of single mothers the kid comes into the picture almost at the same time and many are not just ready. Being a father figure is hard and not many take it seriously.

Answer 5

Yes, men do accept other kids as there own and love them all the same. I can't speak for all men, but real men can. I found that man and he's been there since my daughter was six, and she's now eleven, she loves him and he loves her to death. A real man will never run when you say you have kids. As for little boys pretending to be men, they'll jet at the drop of a dime. So be careful who you allow in your kids life. Besides, kids have a way of knowing a good man when they see one.

Answer 6

my son is serverly dissabled and ive found 2 men in the past 2 yrs that treat him better than his own father ever could. man really dont mind infact some thrive on it. boys on the other hand run
thats how ive been able to weed out the men from the boys

Answer 7

My cousin has two little boys by two different guys, one was right out of highschool and he lefter her as soon as she was 3 months pregnant and one left her when he found out she was pregnant(and they were married). And now years later she has found a great guy! Who loves those two boys as if they were his own in fact he is adopting them! Just because you have a child dont count yourself out. It will be harder for you but you will come upon many men who do not mind at all! Good luck and i hope a good guy comes around!

Answer 8

Most men view single mom's as sex. Only a sucker will raise another man's kids. Sad but true.

Answer 9

At least you don't have to wonder if she is a virgin.

1 or 2 kids from one father, no problem

multiple from multiple, run like hell (after the first weekend)

Answer 10

of course you can find a great guy but- be smart about who you bring in your child's life. Not all guys are willing to take a woman in with another mans' child. No matter who you date- remember that your baby comes first weither they like it or not!