So what do you do when your Gf wants to have a Baby and as a BF thats not on the agenda?

Question

She tries to convince me to have sex with out a condom. Tying to be all sweet and stuff, I'm like no way.

BTW were both over 25

Answer 1

you tell her no. be-careful women are vicious and will try just about anything. don't let her give you the condom because she probably poked holes in them, and definitely don't trust that she is on birth control. If she wants a baby bad enough she will have one with you. If you aren't ready your relationship will falter and she will be a single parent. Tell her how feel and tell her what possible outcomes are there if she were to have a baby. She is probably looking for marriage and you might want to mentions that's not in the question even if she does have a baby.

Answer 2

tell her that you arent ready to have a child and tell her the truth- if at some point of your relationship you WOULD like to have baby, but that meant at a point of marriage and stuff... tell her that. make sure it is right- because even getting married, you are not attached to that person if things dont work out- if you have a baby with someone and dont get married and things dont work out... you will ALWAYS be attached to that person the rest of your life! Marriage and children require 100% commitment and love to each other and a common ground that your relationship is due to be "forever"- so take those steps first!

Answer 3

Tell her honestly that you are not ready to have kids because one you have to be financially ready to take care of another human being, caring for a baby cost money, two make sure you have stable job, three depending on how old you are if you are both younger than 21 to 30 y/o you have your whole life ahead of you. you should be traveling and seeing the world before you have a baby. a baby can tie you down from doing alot of things that you have planned for your future. tell her that.

Answer 4

You make sure you wear the GOOD condoms when y'all have sex...and let her know if a baby NOW is that important to her, then you'll step aside so she can move on and find someone who also feels that way...

If you are not ready, don't be pressured into it, or tricked into it...if you need to let her go to ensure she doesn't try to have one with you (against your will) then let her go...

...she deserves to have what she wants, but not at the expense of someone else...

Answer 5

Make sure she knows you don't want a baby and to lessen the chances of actually having one, always use protection or just stop having sex with her altogether.

Girls have been known to do crazy things when they want to have a baby.

J

Answer 6

Tell her the truth NOW and be prepared for some serious discussions about where your relationship is going. Don't string her along if you never have the intention of having a family. If you're not honest with her, you're wasting her time (and yours).

Answer 7

Well... First you talk about it. You explain your reasons for not wanting to bring a child into the world. Then you tell her that if she needs a baby more than a strong relationship that she needs to find a different sperm donor.

Answer 8

Well, it really all depends. Why is it you don't want to have a baby? If you want you should simply tell her in the nicest way that you are not ready to be a father. But maybe someday when your ready.

Answer 9

You have a heart to heart with her and respect each other's priorities. Then you either move forward together after reaching a compromise or else you break up. Ouch! This one's tough! Hope it goes well for you! :)

Answer 10

Find a new girlfriend before you "accidentally" become a father with a woman you don't want to have a baby with.