How do you deal with your boyfriend critising you?

Question

How much is too much? and what is good and bad criticism? etc etc...

Answer 1

You should already know the difference between good criticism and bad criticism. You know when it's too much, you know when someone has crossed that line. You already know the answers to you questions, just ask yourself.

Answer 2

The question is "why do you accept his behavior"? I think when this becomes a habit, then its time to walk away. There is constructive criticism, and then there's criticism that is done out of just being mean. Evidently this is hurting you otherwise you wouldn't be asking what people think. Don't allow your boyfriend to treat you this way. You deserve to be respected like every human being does. Hope this helps. Good luck

Answer 3

Good criticism is made with a good intention and the wish to make things better. Good criticism also requires a bit of tact. Bad criticism has no basis and is more of a personal attack. Such as commenting on someone's height and facial blemish, something that they really have no control over.

Answer 4

First thing my Mr (we are not married just easier to say Mr.) dose not and will not put me down. I will walk out the door!

I was in a serious accident that left me incoherent for 6 months. My oldest boys dad moved in to help out, so he said. I have a disabled child I was not able to care for. Anyhoo as this person was in my children's and my home he not only had money transfered to his account, he had the house put into his name!!
I tried to explain to the people (agencies) that this man had me sign paperwork as I was healing from having a head injury. I did get back some funds but my house was gone....

Anyhoo as I started to recover this man actually thought he could talk down to me! I could not speak very well nor could I remember the littlest things, then, but I got better!
He still thought he could put me down! He criticized me on a daily biases!!
Then as I got my money back that he stole from me he drew up paper work to kick me and my children out of OUR house. If it were not for my friends I would be a whipped women with no where to turn!
Do not let this happen to you! Do not let anyone put you down. It kills your soul and makes you a shell of a person!

Then you will get used to being treated this way, thinking it is normal. It is not normal! Next time he criticizes you tell him to stop. Guys like this do not stop though....he might?

Anything that makes you feel that hurt deep inside is bad criticism. You felt it, you must of or you would not have asked this question.....If you feel there is something to cherish of this relationship try, do your best. If there is nothing left, no matter what walk away with your head up!

Even if you have to leave the things you own behind!! Take the kids and your pets :0)

Answer 5

Your boyfriend has issues, and he is doing this to you to make him self feel bigger. In other he has a problem. So leave him with his problem, break up with him, because he is going to get worst, no need to stay with him, wasting your life, go and have some fun, around people who will respect you. And by the way, constructive criticism, helps you to correct the thing, and do it the right way! I have already told you about bad criticism!

Answer 6

It is a sign. It is a sign that he has poor self esteem and wants you to feel like crap about yourself too. It can also be a sign that he's taking you for granted. Take some space from him maybe or tell him that you are going to start looking for a guy who apreciates you. You DESERVE to have someone in your life that makes you happy. Life is too short to be unhappy and bad relationships can lead to total misery. Critism can be constructive if done in a nice way. If not it is abuse. Learn to tell the difference. Good luck but remember that you make your own luck too. Take the bull by the horns girl.

Answer 7

My advise to you is this: If he makes you feel bad, at all, then you need to discuss it with him, Let him know that when he critisizes you it makes you feel bad. If he cares about your feelings he will change maybe not completly but enough for you to notice and work together with the issue.

But, does he do this to everyone or just you. If he does then it may just be his personality. And you may or may not need to re-evaluate if he is for you.

Dont ever let anyone make make you feel less than you what you are, which is an equal to all!!

Answer 8

It depends on what he's criticizing you about.

If the things he is criticizing seem genuine - he seems to be trying to better you - thank him for his input, consider what he has to say, and then act. If his criticism helped, tell him so - if not, tell him why.

If the things he is criticizing seem petty and hurtful for the sake of being hurtful or controlling , ONCE - tell him that you don't appreciate him criticizing you in that way. The second time, dump him.

Answer 9

Tell him to "F"off. Why would he criticize......what gives him the right. OH......he's perfect......sshhhaa.......I don't think so. There is a difference between criticizing and helping in making yourself feel or appear to each others need. If anyone should criticize it should be yourself. Do things for yourself, because YOU want to be happier. If he is an *** and doesn't help and encourage you. Then drop his ***.

Answer 10

First of all, some criticism is good. I think anything that develops you to be a better person if told to you out of love is good. If he is just cutting you down to make himself look better...run now!!