I'm 17 yeard old. I'm staying with my boyfriend's aunt, he's staying with his stepfather. I have no family to go to for help. My boyfriend is living virtually in the middle of nowhere, and I"m pretty far from the city too. We don't a vehicle . When it comes down to it, we don't have anything. A few clothing items and eachother that's it. We need help. I honestly think I'm losing my mind. I'm just so lost, I don't know what to do. Please someone help figure something out. I can't keep living like this.
My boyfriend is trying really hard but it's very difficult when you're in the middle of nowhere.
2006-10-24 07:10:36 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Contact the a church closest to you, they would be the best organization to turn to first, and can provide you with aid the fastest. Churches have vast resources and would be able to supply you with food, clothing and maybe even transportation. I'm sure a few church members could provide you and your boyfriend with jobs, at least on a temporary basis. Don't be embarrassed to ask for help, it takes a great deal of humility to turn to a stranger, there's nothing wrong with it. Even if you feel that you don't believe in god or maybe even part of a non-christian religion, it is the duty of the church to accept you with open arms. When ever I feel that the world is closing in on me, I fight back by taking action. Better days will come I can assure you of that.
2006-10-24 07:23:41 · answer #1 · answered by imacdaddy01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOst citys have a homeless shelter and a place for people in crisis which might help financially. There are youth shelters too.
Go to a church and get to know people that will help you.
Get situated and try to do jobcore or get a job at a restaurant and consider going back to school as a chef one day. Being that you don't have family as a you say maybe the military would good for you (navy or army)
2006-10-24 14:18:23 · answer #2 · answered by Kris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you something. You've made some bad decisions, and for whatever reason you feel you have now where to go. Well your mother is your best friend. Whatever you do, no matter how bad, she will always be there for you when nobody else will. I have learned this lesson my self. Your mother is your best friend. Honest to god. What you need to do is put your situation in check, realize you are only 17. What will happen if you guys break up? Honey whatever happened you need to go back home or contact the police they will help to get you out of that mess. Honesty is the best policy.
2006-10-24 14:25:15 · answer #3 · answered by Becky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and find a social services agency in your area that you can speak with. The most important thing is for you both to get a steady source of income so that you have even the basic things that you need. (Even if someone gave you a car, you will still need money each day for gas.)
Look at the website for the county you are living in for the various agencies that provide aide to teens.
Many churches have programs that might help you, even if you do not belong. They might also have referral programs for housing and employment.
2006-10-24 14:20:24 · answer #4 · answered by Marie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should join the Army, if you can.
The military will teach you a job, pay you, give you a place to live, and have full medical benefits.
It will also teach you to be a responsible adult, so when you get out you can be independent and strong. You'll learn how to take care of yourself and your personal business.
I'd at least talk to a recruiter if I were you. The military is a great option for many young people who don't think they have any options.
It sure worked for me!
Good Luck
2006-10-24 14:30:13 · answer #5 · answered by wrdsmth495 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where is your parents??? If you ran away to be with him then go back home, If not try and get a job so you can eventually get a place of your own, or at least help out his aunt with bills and food in the mean time help out around the house as much as possible.
2006-10-24 14:23:48 · answer #6 · answered by juicy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say you have no family, does that mean mom is dead dad is dead, grandma and grandpa, aunts and uncles, brothers and sisters dead as well? or do you mean no family as in, you are a problem child and no one wants anything to do with you in your family?? I ask because if EVERYONE who is blood related to you is dead, then are you in school? If not, then please go back to school because that's where a lot of help will start. They have homes, we have one here called The SAAFE house that teens who have no one can stay in. Second, they help you get a job and refer you to social services. If you are in school, get good grades so you can go to college. Financial aid will help pay for school and you can stay in the dorms. If you have family,and they just don't want anything to do with you, then go to them, on bended knee with tears in your eyes if need be, and beg for help. You must be sincere that you'll change for the better as well. Hopefully, and God forbid they are that cold hearted as to turn you away then, maybe they'll help. If all else fails... Get a new boyfriend,,,
2006-10-24 14:21:33 · answer #7 · answered by candyred1999 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look right now you are really in a bind. First of all you need to find some kind of job to earn some money. Maybe you can find a job in the city at a local resturant, then find a place to rent. Maybe someone has a room to rent to you for a reasonable price. After you have worked for a period of time, save some money. Save enough money to where you can get on a greyhound bus and move to a place that has plenty of jobs, and somewhere that you can get a decent start over again in life. After I had enough money saved to get a bus ticket and enough money for at least three months of living expenses I would get on that bus and go to Orlando Florida. Orlando thrives on the tourist industry. There are always jobs at Disney, Universal anywhere in Orlando. After I found me a job and about after a year I would enroll in one of the local community colleges in Orlando. Then you would be on the right track to get out of this despair you are living in right now. Get out of this envrionment right now, and quit feeling sorry for yourself. If you do what I suggested you should be out of this situation within 6 months.
2006-10-24 14:20:27 · answer #8 · answered by Rooster 1972 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be thankful for what you have, regardless of how little. Don't ask for a house, in stead be thankful that you have a life and make the best of it. Life only gets better, and always be thankful to those that help you.
I will recommend you start looking for a job with out any excuses. Think that if immigrants that come to this country with out speaking the language and no one to help them and yet they still make it big.
Good Luck, at one point or another we all been there.
2006-10-24 14:20:22 · answer #9 · answered by Ricardo R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont give up. Talk to your boyfriends aunt and make sure she understands the situation. At the very least you have a roof over your head. Make sure you respect her house and try to get something going for yourself. Keep your self esteem up and try to keep a positive attitude. Make good with what you do have. He should do the same. Some things take time to overcome, but if you try you will.
2006-10-24 14:16:31 · answer #10 · answered by Digging for answers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋