My mum is the only one who is over protective of me!I am 15 and feel i am old enough to be able to go out and enjoy my self without her ringing me nearly every hour!!!She doesnt even knock on my door before entering my room,and whenever i am finished talking on the phone with a friend she asks who it was and what they were saying!She lets me go to discos and town with friends but is just over protective!Was any1 elses parents like this when you were my age?Or is my mother just a freak!!!!!!!!(",)
2006-10-24 07:06:20 · 7 answers · asked by ms.biatch 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My mom was like that when I was young. I am 38 now and she still wants to know where I am going when I leave my house. I have a 17 year old and I am protective of her to. Not bad. I just want her to check in every couple of hours when shes out. I don't monitor her phone and I knock on her door and wait for her to ask me in. My daughter is a diabetic and that is the reason I want he to call. I trust her judgment but it is some of her friends I don't trust.
2006-10-24 07:16:18 · answer #1 · answered by Donna 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Parents are overprotective because they love you and don't want anything bad to happen to you. It's not that she doesn't trust YOU.. she doesn't trust the WORLD not to hurt you. She's been in the world a lot longer than you, and knows how bad things can happen even to kids who make good decisions.
But yeah, I think she is being a little too invasive. I've seen parent who are much worse, but she is getting unreasonable. Talk to her and offer to compromise:
-She should offer you the respect of knocking and waiting for your permission before entering your room (and you should offer to keep your room reasonably clean and bring your laundry/dishes out of the room).
-When you go out: You should promise to call her when you arrive and when you leave a place, and let her know at least one person you'll be with, so she could find you in an emergency. She should agree not to call you as long as you are faithful about this.
-When you are on the phone: Offer that you will tell her who called, but the content of the discussion is confidential.
Basically she just wants to know what is going on in your life, to show an interest, to make sure you are happy and healthy, and not picking up dangerous habits or friends. Reassure her by introducing her to your friends and their families, telling her what sort of activities you are interested in, letting her know that you made good decisions (ie, "Tommy wanted to go to disco X, but there are drug dealers on that block, so we said no way and went to disco A instead.)
Compromise and both of you can be happy. =)
2006-10-24 14:26:27 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your Mother is having her own issues. She is Insucure and maybe has anxiety problems. There are alot of weirdos out there and she may be thinking in her mind that your going to get hurt , such as a car accident or slipped a date drug, Her being so protective also means that she loves your with all her heart and I hate to burst your bubble but she's going to be this way with you all of your life . It's that way with me and my mother and now I am like that with my Daughter too............ We both had major Issues with strangers when we were Kids. Was your mother ever Raped, Molested or in a bad car wreck???????????? I hear that the over protectivness comes from having a Trama in your life as a child..
Find out if your mother is Bothered by worry or Just bored and wanting to Control you. If control is the problem then seek conceling together ,,, It helped my daughter and I work out our problems.
Good luck and remember your mom loves you Uncondintally
2006-10-24 14:57:25 · answer #3 · answered by surefine1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom used to call me every hour when I went out at the age of 20, so yours is better. But I didn't hate her for that cause I was big enough to understand that she did that cause she loved me and that is a true mother. I'm lucky to have a mom like that and you too.
My friend's mom doesn't care about where he goes or anything and he is always saying I am lucky and that his mother doesn't care. So we are lucky.
Just answer her politely.
2006-10-24 15:09:44 · answer #4 · answered by Mr Business 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother wants to keep you safe. A 5 year old was playing in her front yard and a man snatched her, raped her, and killed her. A 9 year old was asleep in her bed and a man broke in, snatched her raped her and killed her. A 15 year old girl was waiting at the bus stop in front of her house. Some men snatched her, raped her and killed her. A 17 year old went out with her friends one night. They got separated and she came up missing. 4 days later they discovered her body in the trunk of her car. A 14 year old girl was kidnapped, raped, and killed and they found her body in a retention pond. I could go on and on and on. Instead of complaining about your mothers "over protectiveness" you should be telling her THANK YOU.
2006-10-24 14:21:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
minez is like that but not that bad and i'm 18 it could get better or worse but it's up to u to choose
2006-10-24 14:13:02 · answer #6 · answered by moneybaby_2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom does that too dont worry shes just worried that your gonna do something youll regret in the future
2006-10-24 22:05:05 · answer #7 · answered by Zulu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋