We been together 4 yrs. have a 9 mon. old baby. and we already moved out once but didnt work b/c of his friends, i want to start my family and have a home with just me him and our child? Where do I go from here? He is living now with his best friend and not supporting his child! Im just at the end of my rope because he says his bf is his family and where he goes, his bf goes! Should I make him choose?
2006-10-24 06:49:15 · 12 answers · asked by Brandy B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It sounds like you got yourself a real winner. If he really wants to be with you and your baby he would do anything to be with both of you. You might want to think what the BF really stands for on his part. For guys to be that close sounds to me there more than a friendship going on.
2006-10-24 06:53:55 · answer #1 · answered by lizarddog01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, he has a lot of growing up to do. Is his bestfriend boy or a girl? Either case, do you think he's having an affair.
If he's not supporting his child and want to move with his BF, his intentions are obvious. He's not intersted in you or your child. I am very sorry. This is a hard situation. I suggest the following:
1. Get a lawyer to get your boyfriend to pay child support.
2. This is hard, but does not sound like you guys will be a couple
3. Find a single mom support group and breakaway from this loser.
2006-10-24 06:54:40 · answer #2 · answered by Centered 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to move in with him and his bf...I know it may not work too long. He may get rid of his bf or u'll know it will never work out with u two. If u make him choose, then u may be creating problems. Now if u agree, he'll choose on his own and u'll see where he really is going with this relationship.
Before u do this make sure u leave on good terms from where u are stayin just in case things don't work out between u and ur guy. Make sure u have a place go if u need to get away.
Good luck.
2006-10-24 06:54:05 · answer #3 · answered by csabrinam 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's a freaking, immature, loser who can't let go of his little friends. Do they play video games together too? Dump, him and go find yourself and the baby a real man who can be both a father and husband not some pansy a$$ little boy who wants his friends tagging along everywhere he goes. Sounds like his bf is probably his "gf" too? The best thing you can get out of him is your child and child support. Is it not obvious to you that he's a big LOSER?
2006-10-24 06:55:26 · answer #4 · answered by Eldude 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, Just be honest with him, I would assume that after four years you guys can communicate properly. Come on girl speak up. Yes you need to make him choice, but watch out, I think uhhh there is a saying in our society that goes something like this.... Buds before hoes...
I wish you the best.
2006-10-24 06:50:31 · answer #5 · answered by brazoian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
errr.... i think your discomfort. i don't think of this a astonishing idea. a minimum of she will be ready to be too close for convenience on the severe ...something might want to ensue between them. . . for sure it is no longer what their planning yet why tempt destiny by technique of putting them mutually if it will be prevented! Yeah , and do not enable her "im so non secular i could not in any respect do this crap fool you " in any case, i imagine you ought to inform him that you would possibly want to locate this association no longer ideal. many situations a guy can't get how a woman feels about a difficulty until eventually you turn it round and ask how HE might want to sense in case you lived with platonic male buddy. in any case, i does no longer yell, scream or cry yet i might want to enable him comprehend there are different concepts to locate low priced lease. before you flow see him tonight get out the newspapers and verify out Craig's record... do a touch analyze to expose him there are low priced suggestions which will make both one in each and every of you satisfied. * try searching in slightly a lot less appropriate region for decrease lease. *try searching at lease only a room with bathing room and kitchen privileges. ( he's with you lots so he might want to bathe at your position) * seem for a yet another percentage residing house with stranger(s)it is more low priced than the present position. In remaining you're literally not soliciting for too a lot by technique of asking that HE no longer flow IN WITH THIS woman. mom Theresa ( is she were alive and relationship for sure) does no longer be ready to put up with that difficulty... solid success !
2016-12-05 04:32:26 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you're not moving until you're married.
It looks like you already started your family... with a boy who's not ready to be a man, a husband or a father.
You don't need to make HIM choose, YOU have to choose to realize he's a loser.
2006-10-24 06:53:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, he can do stuff with his friend, but if the friend has to go he is too imature to be a father. just make sure he pays child suport until that kid is 18!! you need the support and help with the kids.
2006-10-24 06:54:20 · answer #8 · answered by Grandma of six 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did you have a child with a man that you were not married to? Here are some facts to think about.
Reports show that approximately 85% of youth in prison, 85% of children with behavioral disorders, 75% of adolescents in substance abuse treatment centers, 71% of all high school dropouts, and 70% of adults serving long-term prison sentences come from fatherless homes. Fatherless children average significantly higher in terms of teen suicide, illegitimate birthrates, incarceration and unemployment. 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes. 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes and 85% of all children that exhibit serious behavioral disorders come from fatherless homes. Because only a portion of each age group grew up in a fatherless home, these statistics mean that children from fatherless homes are 5 times more likely to commit suicide, 9 times more likely to drop out of high school, 10 times more likely to abuse drugs, 20 times more likely to end up in prison and to have behavioral disorders, and 32 times more likely to run away than their peers who grow up in intact families with both birth parents. These trends persist even when socioeconomic factors are controlled for.
2006-10-24 06:51:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You both need to sit down and talk, you need to let him know exactly what you're thinking and how you feel and then hear his side as well.
When all is said and done, come to an agreement on what is going to be done.
2006-10-24 06:54:44 · answer #10 · answered by PrettyProblem 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋