So, my boyfriend is still friends with his ex (he broke up with her), and to make things even more difficult.... I am also friends with her. I know they're like best friends, and I know I cannot stop them from hanging out (and I wouldn't try) But it still hurts to hear about them hanging out together when I'm not there, N about how she just shows up at his house to hang out, N about how much fun they have because I know she still likes him(even tho she is seeing someone). I don't complain about her, and I don't say anything when he talks about her because I don't want him to think that I'm nagging or jealous or anything, but idk, what should I do? Would it be a bad idea to bring it up or should I just leave the subject alone?
2006-10-24 06:39:41 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ex or not, she shouldn't be dropping by his house unannounced. Listen, I know you don't want to appear as though you're nagging, but you have to draw the line somewhere. They can stay friends, but with bounderies... I'm not saying to go nuts on him or anything like that, but I do think you should let him know that it disturbs you a little. How'd you feel if you started hanging out with YOUR ex and having him (ex) drop by unannounced? I bet your boyfriend would have something to say about that..
2006-10-24 06:45:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If their relationship negatively effects your relationship with him in some REAL way, then you should say something to him. Let's say for example, if you want to have some alone time with him, but she's always around you could say that. But if the issue is really just your insecurity (and we all have them, I'm not dissin on you) about losing him back to her, then that is your problem and you have no right to make it his. He shouldn't have to give up a friendship (with anyone) just because you have fear that something MIGHT happen. Even if he loves you with all his heart and would be willing to trash his friendship with her as a way of respecting your wishes, YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO ASK THAT OF HIM.
I've been friends with some of my Ex girlfriends for years and nothing but friendship has ever occured between any of us. Choose to trust him.
2006-10-24 06:42:43 · answer #2 · answered by ScubaGuy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should bring it up, tell him, you just have a problem with her coming to his house. Say to him how would you feel, if my ex did what you and her does? Say I am not saying anything about you not being friends with her, but it is a line, that you have to draw. By all means pull him up on this.
2006-10-24 06:46:41 · answer #3 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is bothering u that much, just say something. Tell ur man u don't mind hes friends with an ex but the relationship they have u feel is a little too close. If he cant respect that then dont be with him!
2006-10-24 06:44:20 · answer #4 · answered by MELISSA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with ur current being friends with the EX, I mean they're EXs for a reason.. Come on and drop the jealousy crap, grow the fack up.
2006-10-24 06:41:06 · answer #5 · answered by brazoian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell him how you feel about her hanging out all the time cuz me ex talked to a girl that he said that he didn't like but then we broke up and it turns out that he liked her the whole time and it would suck for the same thing to happen to you
2006-10-24 06:44:01 · answer #6 · answered by LilMama_123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think it is always good to be honest with someone if you want a healthy relationship. You should tell him that it makes you uncomfortable. He should understand, it makes perfect sense that you would feel the way you do.
2006-10-24 06:43:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats what happens when you go out with each other's ex's.
Now there must be a guy who doesn't hang out with his ex somewhere out there.
Grow up .. and find someone else ... or Shut up ... and put up with it. I wonder if you're partly why they broke up..?
Dr BAd
2006-10-24 06:55:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's his ex of course you will feel like this just be careful not to cross the line and don't let him cross the line ether.
2006-10-24 06:45:42 · answer #9 · answered by looking1964 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think this is the one time when you have to bite your tongue, as if you bring it up, all hell could break loose!!
Maybe say about how you feel uncomfortable her coming round yours whenever she pleases. maybe he might understand.
xXx
2006-10-24 06:44:41 · answer #10 · answered by Fader's Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋