You are poor and barely survivng. You are offered a very good job, nearly 100,000 USD a year to go to Iraq and do the job you love. In the meantime you meet a girl that seems like the one for you. She says if you go, she will not wait. You are both in your thirties and she wnts children. What would you do?
2006-10-24 06:37:59 · 37 answers · asked by trooperthorntton 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How long would you be in Iraq for should be the question? If she really loves you, she would wait for you! But don't expect that she would wait for YEARS or something for you. I think that if you go and get ahead by earning that kind of money, once you are done over there, you would be able to be comfortable and if your lady doesn't wait for you, there are other women out there. Good luck! Personally I would wait if I truly loved you
2006-10-24 06:41:02 · answer #1 · answered by Earthy Angel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it is a job you love and you can make that kind of money, go. If she really wanted to be with you, she would wait. I know I would. Think about it, she wants kids, but you are poor and barely surviving. How in the world are you suppose to support the children? You have to secure yourself first before you can take on anyone else. If she does not wait, oh well. There are still other great women out there. I am sure you will find another and then you will be in a better position to have and support a family. You know also, if you were to stay and things does not work out with the two of you and you did have children, remember, that thing called child support? You are barely surviving and you will punish trying to pay child support. Always secure yourself before taking on someone else. Never forget that.
2006-10-24 06:51:25 · answer #2 · answered by killerlegs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what you want out of life right now ... if you go and she doesn't wait ... You know deep down in your heart you can always find another love ... the world is small and there's plenty of fish in the sea ... you'll go to Iraq for a few years or however long you decide - make some money - save up for the life you wanted ( financially stable ) and build a new life for yourself - someone will come along ... !
Now if you feel your ready to settle down and live the "Family Life" ... stay and make lots and lots of babies with your new wife ( wife first - then babies please ..lol.. ) if you know she's the one and you can't live without her - go with your heart ... you could always find another good job ... poor and barely surviving can only make you stronger ... !
Good luck with whatever you choose to do ... Iraq is crazy right now - I know the money is good and all but do you really want to risk everything ... ( ex-Army chick here - just worried about our people over there - even if you do make more money then the soldiers .. always hated that - DOD workers made more )
2006-10-24 06:48:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how long the job in Iraq will last, but I'd probably go and then look her up when I got back. If you're that poor and don't have good job prospects, you're not going to be a good provider for those kids anyway. Better to go, save up some cash and hopefully parlay your Iraq experience into a decent paying job at home.
If you do go to Iraq, dude, be careful! There's a reason they're paying six figures and it ain't cause it's always sunny over there.
2006-10-24 06:43:00 · answer #4 · answered by Rob B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh this is a toughie. But if you dont' know the woman well enough to know that you love her, then it might be best to go ahead and take the job in Iraq...especially if it's something you really want to do. As far as the woman goes, not wanting to wait is understandable. I guess the best thing for you to do is to take some time out and really think hard and decide which one of these is more important to you.
2006-10-24 06:43:59 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go. If she is truly the one she will be there 5 minutes from now and 50 years from now. If she wants children and I am sure you do as well the money you make while you are away will provide a better life for you both. There are plenty of ways to keep in contact: phone, Internet, letters. Anything worth having is worth working for so I suggest that you do what need to be done for yourself and work on the relationship while you are at it. If she is true to what she said then she is definitely not the one for you and you would have wasted an opportunity on her.
2006-10-24 06:42:20 · answer #6 · answered by Jeni_Li 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in quite a dilemma. Your age, your girl's age, and her desire to have a child by you while she still can bear children. If she threatens she won't wait if you leave for Iraq, she probably isn't the girl in your life. She's looking only to her own security (which is reasonable) and does not wish to be left out in the cold. Your marriage to her may not last.
Go to Iraq only if you must, because the situation there is very dangerous. Disregard your gf's views as they are only self-centred. She doesn't seem to be your soulmate. Even if you do not proceed to Iraq, look for someone else. Your search isn't over.
2006-10-24 11:13:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a hard one what you need to do is think about it and decide if money is worth more than love to you especially if you think shes the one for you just know that you can make no matter what you do but honestly if it was me i would stay for the girl because if she is the one you never know if there will be another for you so i think you should stay and have a good life with the girl and just work towards some other job that you really enjoy and work your way up from there
2006-10-24 06:43:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she really loved you she would be willing to wait! Go with your heart and if you really want the job in Iraq go, everything will work out for the best if you do what you want. But make sure you wont regret leaving her. Good luck!
2006-10-24 06:42:07 · answer #9 · answered by roxygurl1307 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then I would have to ask myself, what is more important, having a job that I would get ahead or staying with a girl and having no money?
Honey if I were you I'd go with the job...there are plenty of girls out there that are waiting for you! Good luck!
2006-10-24 06:42:32 · answer #10 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋