I have been with my boyfriend for 3 months and all he does is watch porn and play with his pocket vagina. He said he just does it when he misses me but I don't know if I should believe him. Help, I really love him but can't compete with Jenna Jamison!!!
2006-10-24 06:29:03 · 43 answers · asked by jessajolamb 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just squeeze some tooth paste into the pocket vagina.......that should stop everything..........trust me.
2006-10-24 06:32:26 · answer #1 · answered by sensa 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-20 09:08:49 · answer #2 · answered by April 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so I have been in your exact same position for the past month. So I do have a lot to say. But first, let me say that all these guys and even girls that say "it's a guy thing" and that makes it ok, that is a COP OUT/SORRY EXCUSE for being a pig. It's not ok, and no matter what they say, not all guys look at porn. I know a few who do not. And as far as all these people insinuating that it's because you are not doing enough, it has nothing to do with you. He either has an addiction to it, or just doesn't care enough about your feelings to respect you and stop. My suggestion, see if he does it this time. See if he really quits. Yes, snoop. There's nothing wrong with it in these kind of situations. Check the computer history, look around his room. Especially even just examine how he acts. If he does it again, leave, no questions asked, no more chances. And what you said about him saying you lie too, he's trying to change it all around on you. Do Not let him get away with it. This is about HIM, not you. And don't listen to these people with no morals who think it's ok to look at porn while you have a partner. Hope this helps. =]
2016-03-28 06:12:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH man, the Porn thing! Me fiance had a real addiction with this when we first got together. We've been together two years now and as time goes by, I have learned that to respect the fact that he likes porn and likes to masturbate occasionally, but that being said, he has also learned that I don't like it one bit and has cut back majorly out of respect for me. Is there someway that you guys could come to a similar compromise? If not then maybe you should just say Adios, because like I learned, if he is addicted to it, he will only tell you he has stopped and then go on and continue doing it anyways, only learning to hide it better so that you don't find out. Also, don't think of it like you are competing with Jenna Jamison, because while he is watching that , it definetely isn't the same thing as having sex with you, it's a fantasy he is living out.
2006-10-24 06:34:13 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there are seveal things you should take into concideration. ist of all no you can't compete with jenna jamison, because she is a fantacy, in any man's mind their fantacies are always near perfect, 2nd of all you shouldn't have to compete or even feel threatened by characters, (because that is what they are actors that get paid to play out fantacies). in porn movies. 3rd he has only been your boyfriend only three months get to know him better, see if that is what he is all about, before you even try to change him, you never really know what other issues may arise that will make his fixation on porn seem like nothing. now in this early point in your realation ship if you feel that is an issue, you should really sit down with him and tell him exactly how you feel about it. stess your concerns, i don't think you should want to change a person, if you are not as intrested in porn or even sex as he is that may become an issue down the road. but you also have to concider his age and a point where he is in his life, if he is still very young, it may just taper out as he gets older. so the real question should be can you hadle his hobby of watching porn, would you be willing to be part of that life style, or even help him live out his fantacies. its all a matter of what you want or want to put up with.
oh and by the way playing with a pocket vagina, its not true that he does that only when he misses you. most men are very easily stimulated, aroused. the fact of the matter is that even if it is only a two second comercial flashing and oridanry woman, the elecrical signal to the penus has already been sent, its a matter of personal choice if we, (men), want to address the erection. so in short he just likes to stimulate himself, (jerk off).
2006-10-24 07:05:23 · answer #5 · answered by diablito69us 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I've had this problem! I've lived with my husband for a year now, and just recently I found out he looks at porn...and not just a little, but hours worth a day! He waits till I go to sleep too, to do it! One night I snuck out and caught him, and his reason was that he was horny and I was sleeping...so, I told him, next time you get horny, come wake my a s s up!
Well, it continued...and I talked to some guy friends about it, and they said it just what guys do! It's just a way for them to get off, and at least he's not out getting some, that porn is a lot better than cheating. (Which I sort of agree with, but it still hurts to know he's getting off to some other naked chick!)
Talk to him about it...tell him your feelings on it, and if he doesn't change, or you can't handle it anymore, I say leave him and find someone else who can reason with you. If you can deal with it, maybe try watching it with him, or, if you catch him watching it, turn it off and show him how much better the real thing is! I'm sure he'd rather have the real thing than a pocket vagina!
Good luck!!
2006-10-24 06:43:20 · answer #6 · answered by Huliganjetta 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to compete with anyone, especially Jenna Jamison! Porn and masturbation are fairly normal activities if they are not done to the exclusion of any other sexual activity. Anything that makes you feel uncomfortable should be addressed with your partner immediately. He should respect you and give you what you need to be satisfied. What attracted you to a guy like that in the first place?
2006-10-24 06:41:29 · answer #7 · answered by Lynda 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You cant "make" him do anything. All you can do is be 100% and share your feelings and thoughts about the issue. If it is that big of a deal to you then I say do not, DO NOT tolerate it. He is gonna do what he wants. For those who tell you that you can 'make' him stop and it will be all better, I wouldn't believe that. If they are soo inclined, they will find a way and then it will just be hidden from you and behind your back.
As a personal note, that was one of the few reasons I left my x of 2 years who fathered my son. I can't compete with pornography and refuse to. There are many men out there whom I am sure if you told that you had a problem with it, they would genuinely and sincerely put an end to it. That is what keeps my hope alive that I will find someone who isn't addicted to such filth.
Good luck hun and stand up for youself. You will only be rewarded...
2006-10-24 06:34:26 · answer #8 · answered by AGirl2Friendly 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can. Jenna jameson looks kind of nasty now, what is she 40?
Why don't you ask to fullfill his fantasies. Either he is addicted to porn or you aren't exciting enough in bed and he is too shy to ask you.
It is more likely the latter as he equates the porn to missing you.
I suggest you find out what type of porn he watches, imitate it and offer to make some amateur porn with him.
The pocket vagina however indicates obsession. It might be a mix. you might want to be carefull about getting too deep into fulfilling his fantasies. Do a small one and see how he reacts to it.
Also you should try having sex with him more. If he doesn't respond to that he is probably a porn addict. If you guys are having sex 3-4 times a week and he still watches porn the same level he does now and doesn't throw out his pocket vagina then he is addicted (unless you are boring in bed).
2006-10-24 06:32:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
It's not a competition. The sooner you see that the better this entire situation will be. Masturbation is perfectly healthy, so long as it's not done constantly (in unhealthy doses). Same goes for porno, but this, unlike the masturbation comment, is a bit more of an opinion as opposed to a fact. My opinion is that so long as it isn't cutting into your partner's priorities or your sex life with him or her, then what is the problem? If they have some alone time where they can either watch tv, call up a friend, or watch porno and masturbate, then what's the problem with them doing it? It's not because they're sexually unsatisfied with you necessarily, sometimes people just like to take care of business on their own even when they may have the perfect partner to do it with them most of the time.
2006-10-24 06:32:28 · answer #10 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well the porn is normal. But playing with his pocket vagina? Thats just weird. Maybe you guys can watch porn together. But playing with the pocket vagina has to stop.
2006-10-24 06:32:32 · answer #11 · answered by three6ty 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋