I am 24 years old and I have decided to never fall in love again. I fell in love just recently for the very first time but she is just not interested in me that way. And it hurts like hell like there is a huge part of me is missing and I don't know if I will ever get it back. Even if I do get it back I am still never going to fall in love again and I don't care if I have to remain a virgin for the rest of my life either. Who agrees I should do this or not either way I am very strongly considering it.
2006-10-24 06:18:42 · 40 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-10-24 06:20:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
It's a part of life. Before you fall in love, be careful. Let it happen when you are ready. Make sure she is ready for it too. Don't void off love. A life without love is no life at all! (I heard that somewhere). It's better to have loved than to have never loved at all! Just take some time to get over how you are feeling now. Then go out and date again and see where it goes. You never know the girl you were meant for, may just be around the corner! Good luck!
2006-10-24 06:22:37 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Amanda♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's silly. Just because you made a poor choice in girlfriends, you are quitting? What's wrong with understanding, growing, learning, maturing, and becoming a better man who chooses partners wisely? A huge part of you may be missing-- a naive, and childish idea of what love is. Now it's time to evolve into a man.
PS you get back what you put out. If you refuse to love anyone, you'll just attract cold, flakey women who will hurt you more. But if you're a confident, warm, kind man, you'll attract the same type of girls.
2006-10-24 06:23:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi - I am 27 and a female, and I have been in your position, but I really think you can't 'decide' not to fall in love again. At least, that's how it's been for me. The last time I fell in love (again, it was unsuccessful) was completely against my will and better judgement - I just met a guy in the course of my everyday life who made me very happy and seemed to be the answer to all my questions. For whatever reason he doesn't feel the same way about me; I've never managed to find a relationship where the guy liked me as much as I liked him, or at all. And I've often considered never falling in love again, but I think it would cut a lot out of my personality. I'm a loving and caring person and I value that about myself, and I think suppressing it would cause me more pain than losing another love would. Am I making sense? The first time you fall in love, and lose out, is really hard. I'm not trying to make little of what you're going through, because I understand. The first guy to reject me was someone I'd loved for over five years, and I thought I would never heal, but I did. And I suppose that I feel, like you, that part of me is missing forever, but I guess that's part of growing up. It took me ages to get over the first love I lost, and I know it will take me ages to get over this present love that's going wrong, but I know that it won't close my eyes or my heart to ever loving again - I know that I would lose out, rather than gain, by closing my heart off and deciding not to love again. I think you should protect yourself from your current pain and hurt by maybe withdrawing a bit from the world, doing kind things for yourself, making yourself happy in whatever way you like - but make sure this is temporary and that you do get back out there after a while, once you feel better (and you will feel better, eventually). You sound like a sensitive and kind guy, and I think it would be a shame to deprive the world of your love! Just my opinion... but until you make your decision, you have my sympathy - I know what it's like to go through the pain of lost love, but it will ease. Honest.
2006-10-24 08:05:49 · answer #4 · answered by Sinead C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all remember our first love. I can understand that you have being hurt and are feeling rejected but that should not dictate the rest of your life give yourself time to get over the pain and then carry on with you life you will meet somebody would will return your love one day and then you going to be happy and look back at what you are feeling now and be great full that you did not do what you are considering.
2006-10-24 06:24:28 · answer #5 · answered by liongirl_40 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are making a huge mistake. sure love hurts when you don't recieve it back. but you're missing out on a huge thing if you refuse to keep yourself open for the possibility that love is out there for you. you're young, you have time to find the one. don't go looking for it either, because it'll seem all that difficult to find it. just sit back and let nature take it's course. love will find you if you let it. and when you do, it'll be well worth the risk of getting hurt again. you have no idea how good it feels knowing that there is someone in this huge world made just for you. and that that person will do anything to make you happy.
don't give up on love because it's a huge thing to give up.
2006-10-24 06:23:43 · answer #6 · answered by Jessica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up on love! You can't base the rest of your life on this one bad experience! I understand that you are devastated, that's expected to happen-you are only human, right? You can't sell yourself short. By giving up on on love, you could possibly miss out on one of the best experiences of your entire life! So, it didn't work out the way you wanted it to this time around! Perhaps it just wasn't meant to be- and that's ok! As time goes by, you will find that these wounds will begin to heal daily! Be patient with the whole process- be selective and NEVER put all of your eggs into one basket! Good Luck and trust that there is light at the end of the tunnel!
2006-10-24 06:31:54 · answer #7 · answered by PBnJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry could not resist I'm a guy !
A love relationship magnifies everything the good is 10x better the bad is 10x worse.
You will be stronger because of this but do you really want to miss out on the 10x good. I don't think so.
Let it pass, keep busy and active, get your mind onto other things and dare to love again.
2006-10-24 06:24:20 · answer #8 · answered by lifeontrack2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how it feels cause I fell in love with a very close friend who later married someone else. I understand not wanting to love again and honestly for myself I am not sure if it will happen again, but, just like I didn't plan to fall in love with K, I can't plan on NOT falling in love with someone else in the future. It just happens.
Good luck healing that broken heart.
2006-10-24 06:22:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're giving up on love too easily. Just because you have nightmares, doesn't mean you stop dreaming. You pick yourself up, dust yourself off and keep on moving with your life. Your about this all wrong. Besides, you can't help who you fall in love with so that's not for you to decide. You can't control love, it develop on it's own. I understand that your hurt and disappointed but I don't agree with you saying You will never fall in love again. I disagree with you. But good luck anyways.
2006-10-24 06:27:00 · answer #10 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hurts, you heal, you fall all over again! It's part of what makes us human. Unless you become a monk or a priest, the chances of staying a virgin are pretty low. Just believe that it's all part of the grand plan for your life and roll with it. It gets better with time.
2006-10-24 06:24:10 · answer #11 · answered by Lynda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋