I am just recently divorced and am living with a man He says he isnt having any feelings for his ex LDR but I have been able to read some of his emails and sure sounds like he is still in love with her What would you do in this case? Can anyone tell me
2006-10-24 06:09:24 · 17 answers · asked by chubbycheeks012003 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He says they never met But I do know that they did but it wasnt for only a couple days and he says he didnt have much in common with her But I do worry after being put thru alot in my marriage and ex running around on me for almost 34 yrs....
2006-10-24 06:11:16 · update #1
I think that you shouldn't worry about this. It is normal to still love someone you arent inlove with anymore. If i were you, I would just let time take its course, but have fun with him while you can. Because if you love someone, one day with them could make up for the rest of your life without them.
2006-10-24 06:12:28 · answer #1 · answered by bevey_jane263 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The important thing is you're with him now. Do you really love him? don't lie chubbycheeks, do you? no, you don't. so who cares if he still loves his ex. you said you were recently divorced, so why are you moving in together so soon. yeah, i'm sure he's a great guy, and doesn't want to hurt you, but the issue you 2 have is trust. He says he is not in love with his ex; which you find out is a lie when you sneak through his e-mail. without trust you will have nothing, so why not just have fun?
best wishes, Hero
2006-10-24 06:19:21 · answer #2 · answered by hero08291997 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely need to take a break. If you were meant to be together then you will be in three months from now. Why the rush from your husband and move in with someone new? You need to have some "me" time and try to find yourself. Not rush into another relationship. Just be his friend and nothing else and learn to trust. If you trusted him or didn't have any suspicions, you wouldn't be feeling this way or reading his e-mails. You just need to find your own place with your own space. Take the time to figure out exactly what you want and don't just settle for someone.
2006-10-24 06:15:56 · answer #3 · answered by robbin m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out or boot him out. Why are you RECENTLY divorced and Living with someone new???
You need to stand on your own two feet for awhile, don't go on the rebound. Work on your problems before you start into another relationship!
You picked a cheater before and you're doing it again. You obviously have problems if you're attracting these men. Get out of this relationship now and spend some time working on yourself. Try to figure out why you keep attracting lowlifes.
2006-10-24 06:11:37 · answer #4 · answered by Corn_Flake 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have some self respect woman, move on by YOURSELF. You just divorced. You are livng with someone already. You need to be alone for awhile and figure out what it is that you want out of life and out of a relationship. The type of relationship and person you want to be with. Do you really want to be with someone who might be love with someone else? Are you really ready to jump back into another relationship. What about learning and growing and experienceing and experiementing as an individial? Think of yourself here.
2006-10-24 06:13:10 · answer #5 · answered by bubba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of it while you can, meaning you don't have any ties or children with this man. You WILL get over it. Don't put yourself through this and then later say "I should of seen it coming". Sometimes people need someone else around to comfort them. dont be the pillow
2006-10-24 06:11:48 · answer #6 · answered by bg4804 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok---you hven't had the best track record of picking men. also, you put up w/someone's infidelity for 34 yrs--so i am guessing you are used to being "abused," and have not yet learned to love yourself in a healthy way. Please do not date for a yr and get into counseling and friendships and healthy boundaries. Reading his e-mail also suggests you have boundary issues. Good Luck!
2006-10-24 06:19:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't need any more stress with men, good men are hard to find , if you don't trust him then why are you with him, you've been through it before, what are you doing. get out or you're going to get hurt again, forget about men for a while, take care of yourself first, wait for the right 1 let him find you, you will know ,use your sinces & your intuition when it comes to men .....
LOVE IS OUT THERE! but not with this one, tell him bye, bye!!!
2006-10-24 06:22:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stop snooping through his emails. Watch the movie Little Black Book. It didn't get her far at all going through his stuff. Actions speak louder than words. What are his actions telling you?
2006-10-24 06:12:10 · answer #9 · answered by Another Nickname 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't move in with others until all those things are worked out! Now that you have it makes it tn times as hard to change anything.
2006-10-24 06:11:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋