My family have 8 kids under the age of 12. I usually buy the little ones toys and the older ones outfits or books and I would say, I had probably spend a little over $30 a kid. Now, I'm married. My husbands got 18 kids(nephews & nieces) in his family. We don't have kids of our own yet, I should add. My husband, before we got married, he gets all the kids gift certificates. The little ones $5 and the older ones $10. I need and opinion on how to balance out everybody. I admit, the kids in my family, are a little spoil because everybody, all my brothers and sisters buys them stuff and they're not cheap stuff too. We talked about it and I think the most we can spend on a older kid is $12-15 and $5-8 for the little ones which are under the age of 10. Is this fair? I mean, I can't afford to pay $30 present for a kid anymore. Together we have 23 kid we need to buy presents for. We are not planning to not buy any of them a present, just needs to know your opinion if theres a better way.
2006-10-24 06:05:48 · 8 answers · asked by keziah 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yep...this is a problem, even if people are well-off.
This whole gotta-buy-a-gift concept is way out of hand.
This is something that you and your husband need to seriously discuss between the two of you.
It is an issue of finance, not celebration of the birth of Jesus, when it comes to giving as an obligation (or, in some families, a competition).
On the surface, your husband has the practical approach, but that is what us guys do...we look for the easiest solution because we're not usually bound by the emotional and traditional ties that you women usual have.
But on the other hand, gift-giving should be about something personal...and that's where my wife (a Christian) and I (a Jew) have come to a consensus.
When we got married and had to review finances as well as meet the demands of little ones (a pity that kids are NOT getting the religious meaning of Christmas), we decided to go with the food basket for our extended families and a couple of small-priced items for the kids ($10 or so per kid).
Our food basket is usually full of home-baked treats that adults and kids alike can enjoy, plus a few bottles of wine.
You might also discuss this with your mom, dad, brothers & sisters and see if they are also feeling the same way.
Maybe you all could come to some consensus that is fun and still cost-saving.
2006-10-24 06:20:24 · answer #1 · answered by docscholl 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-01 01:59:08 · answer #2 · answered by kernan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel ya girl. My family is the same way, growing on both my husbands' side and mine. This year on my side we've decided that the adults will play a $20.00 gift exchange game, this one we've actually done for about 10 years now and is so much fun. But this year for the kids, we had a get together this year at which all the kids got to pick a name and that is the person your family has to buy for. I have two children, so we picked two names and therefore have to buy gifts for one of my neices and one of my nephews and we are to spend $20.00 on each. Just a thought but appears to be the solution for our growing families and shrinking wallets this year. lol. Good luck with that. Please email me if you want details on either one.
2006-10-24 06:39:05 · answer #3 · answered by SittinPretty! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The gift certificate idea is the best I think. I also think it is time to stop giving gifts to every kid in the family.
2006-10-24 06:44:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh yeah, honestly the kids are not going to care,.since they are going to get soomuch from your family anyway, and when they open gifts or cards, kids dont really pay too much attention to where it came from, no offence but they are just so excited to open anything, dont feel bad and try not to worry, Have a great holiday and keep your head up.
Good luck!
2006-10-24 06:10:04 · answer #5 · answered by nikel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buy one big gift for all of them. Like a HUGE trampoline. You can find one at Costco (or online) for around what you would spend on all the cheap gifts and it will last for years.
2006-10-24 06:14:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Gift Cards....gift cards, gift cards, gift cards, gift cards. That is the easiest way to go. That is what my husband and I do for all of the kids in our families.
2006-10-24 06:11:10 · answer #7 · answered by jayjay 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
get all the older kids i tunes gift cert for 15.00
2006-10-24 06:09:28 · answer #8 · answered by cat17 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋