I'm concerned about my husband. Since we have been together, he has had difficulty keeping a job, always finding something about it that he doesn't like. He goes from laid-back and loving to depressed and irritable to angry and screaming. He sleeps very little and wil sometimes get so involved in housework that he is up until 2 a.m. One minute he is super sweet and the next he is angry with me. I used to think it was me, but now I'm concerned it might be something else. If I make an appointment for him with our family doctor, I know he'll go, so I'll definately take that step. What I'm wondering is: what could it possibly be? Bipolar? Depression?
2006-10-24 06:05:00 · 15 answers · asked by JoMama 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
most likely bipolar...or....................................
2006-10-24 06:07:29 · answer #1 · answered by curious lupi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mood swings and the switch from calm to manic sound like a form of bipolar disorder. I agree with you that he should get in to see a doctor but do it as soon as you can. If there is something the doctors can do for his particular case, it will only make things better for both of you. Congratulations on being such a supportive and caring wife. That is what he needs right now!
2006-10-24 13:16:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mental I think so but do not come out with this because that would not be good for him or you. Yes seek medical help in talking over his frustrations with a doctor. You have to leave the room when he desides to open up to a doctor and at times men have problems being emotional and it is good that he does show his emotion it is better than him being silent. Ask him to take time to think about his vulnerable outburst and how it makes you want to ease his burdens as much as possible let him know he is not alone. It could be a childhood issue for something unsetting in his past to some trama in his teens. It may show up more in social settings and there goes the job or school social needs. The super sweet moments is a time to play parent role in just listening and being supportive because he needs this.
If you feel unsafe it is good you got on line to talk. It is a depression and the holidays bring on loss of loved ones to real financial end of the year shopping and try to put this on hold a little. Do not rush into drugs Once YOU are on the drug you are on and side effects can spiral into suicide steps. I did not go on the drugs but some can be mild and temporary but the numb feeling of being washed out or to taper off or stop completely can be harmful. Drinking makes it even worse. God Bless You and you can seek Religious Council but at times they do not know what to say or do to aid comfort better than Medical helps... You can look into health issues while you are at it. Men do not like doctors or make a big deal about their health and need a nudge from the women folks to back them . Please get a friend in the family to support you and try to keep it mostly family they are blood kin and won't give up on you and love you both throught this. I am not married but I had a boyfriend that I could not understand. I am a daughter of a man who had many issues but I loved him just the same in a loyal way but no way to check his lead but he may have needed medical help mental issues and durring my childhood I kind of grew up seeing some of this first hand. God Bless You and Take Care and Take Care of Yourself. I am far from your area in Detroit but I care just reading your words.
2006-10-24 13:27:57 · answer #3 · answered by Nina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does sound bipolar, but could just be depression.
Could he possibly be on drugs?
Well, the good thing is you got him an appointment, that is a good start. Your doctor will probably refer him to a psychologist or psychiatrist for possible medication.
Please be patient with him, he could be very ill. Hopefully it will be a passing thing.
Peace and Love your way.
2006-10-24 13:16:27 · answer #4 · answered by wonderwoman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're right to go see the doctor. The symptoms you describe could be bipolar, but they're inconclusive at best. You really need a psychiatrist to make that call, not the internet.
2006-10-25 09:52:57 · answer #5 · answered by Random Bloke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like it is bipolar disorder. The symptoms you have described, like being sweet one minute and angry the next is definitely a sign. Good luck to you!
2006-10-24 13:12:39 · answer #6 · answered by rachee_gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's bi-polar, that means he probably is a little gay. Does he like men as well as women? Is he kind of effiminate? Does he like housework and dishes? I see. I thought so. He probably sas-shays from room to room wearing an apron doesn't he?
Are you giving him all the sex he needs or do you have a headache from time to time? ah..I thought so. You see, the real problem is you. It's probably psycho-sexual and you should be taking the pills and seeing a doctor. You probalby tell him he has a little pee pee and interrupt his world series games with stuff like, 'Honey, does pink curtains over the kitchen sink make sense?" or 'Honey. are you ill? You look ill."
See if your insurance pays for a sexual surrogate. If so, you'll have to move out for a few days and let the surrogate move in while therapy takes place. Most men require a sexual surrogate at least twice year after being put through what you put him through.
2006-10-24 13:25:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
It defintely sounds like depression, which comes in many forms. I suffer with anxiety, and I will be on medication for life. People are embarrassed and ashamed to admit they need help. But he sounds like he needs help and explain to him its not him it is a chemical imbalance in the brain...he may be suffering from post traumatic stress...who knows...however don't give up on him he will only feel worse about himself, and sink lower. Speak with your family physician, and he will guide you on what steps you need to take. The internet is like a library at your finger tips so you can research alot at home as well. Good luck to you both.
2006-10-24 13:14:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like it could be a combination of depression, as well as a little anxiety, and compulsive behavior disorder. Taking him to see a your doctor is a good idea.
2006-10-24 18:25:55 · answer #9 · answered by angel l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be bipolar or depression, but it might also be a drug problem i wached my brother do those very same things when he was on meth. then agian 2 years after he got off the drugs he was told he was bipolar and had manic depression doctors said it was brought on by his meth use but it could have been thier the hole time.
2006-10-24 13:22:59 · answer #10 · answered by steamroller98439 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds bi-polar to me. He needs to see a doctor. Get on a medication to even out his mania and depression. It's not you. Has nothing to do with you. The chemicals in his brain are out of whack. Get him seen asap.
2006-10-24 13:08:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋