Lately, I've really wanted tell my ex that i love him. I still have feelings for him but i've never been in love, i just care for him a lot as a person. I felt strongly when we were together but didn't tell him b/c I was scared but lately I realized that he should know how I feel. So I went to go see him (we stayed friends) and before I could say anything, he told me he's gay and i'm one of the first he's told. I was shocked but decided to tell him anyway b/c whether gay or straight, it's still how I feel and wanted to do what I came there to do- which is to let him know how much I care. I ended up getting really emotional at the time and now I feel stupid because I'm afraid I scared him and that now he thinks I'm just totally in love with him and really dumb and pathetic. I'm happy he's able to be who he is and I don't have any delusions, I'd just like to stay close. Was it wrong for me to say anything if there was no pt? I'm afraid I made things awkward and ruined our friendship.
2006-10-24 06:00:30 · 5 answers · asked by confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
there is nothing wrong about telling someone you love him. that is your feelings. say it.
2006-10-24 06:02:18 · answer #1 · answered by Grasshopper 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. I think was a good idea to tell him how you feel. You needed to get it off you chest and you did. Thats great. The fact that he is gay does not make you sound dumb and pathetic. You did not know until he told you and you cant help that you fell in love. What you will have to do now, is realize that it could never be between the two of you. Of course you could love him as a friend, but as far as relationship feelings, you are going to have to let that go and dont keep thinking what could of been because there is no point in that. Just realize that is it sometimes better to love and get hurt, than to never have loved before. This way you have something to look forward to in a new relationship.
2006-10-24 13:08:10 · answer #2 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is such a touchy subject and a very hard feeling to interpret. You did the right thing for yourself because whether he is feeling good about it or not, you have released a heavy burden you have been carrying around with you for awhile off your chest. Sometimes are feelings are obvious and its easy to just say it and move on but in your case the circumstances were a little bit more complicated and I think you handled this very well. I think to carry something so overwhelming as your feelings for too long, will eventually interfere with your opportunity for true happiness. Now that you have done this, you can breathe again and I think it should make your friendship that much stronger.
2006-10-24 13:15:27 · answer #3 · answered by Kendra J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I beleive if you truly love someone to tell them, regardless of a friend or family member, if you die or get killed suddenly,, then it will be too late, tell him you were thinking of him, want the best for him and you love him,, leave it at that,
alot of people are uncomfortable with being told they are loved,, is kinda weird, I have a good friend, who is married, I would say she is my best friend, and I tell her I love you,, and she seems shocked,
weird world we live in
2006-10-24 13:03:38 · answer #4 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2006-10-24 13:04:31 · answer #5 · answered by AJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋