I have heard that space is a good thing in a relationship but can it also ruin a relationship if there's to much me and my bf havent seen each other for 4 days is this good for the relationship or bad?
2006-10-24 05:59:15 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Every healthy relationship needs space. You need to be alone every now and then to make sure you're being yourself. If you don't have time alone you'll lose your own identity in trying to please the other person. That would make for a very unhealthy, codependent relationship destined to eventually fail.
Don't stay apart too long, though. In my opinion, I think a week should be the very maximum unless unfortunate circumstances dictate otherwise.
2006-10-24 06:03:41 · answer #1 · answered by kevinthenerd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Space is very good for a relationship. It will tell you:
a) when you've got a good thing going on (you miss each other, you can't wait to see each other, etc.
or
b) when you don't (his eye starts to wander, you start to doubt if you trust him, you both start having more fun without the other, etc.)
If you discover that it's "b". Be glad you discovered this now, instead of months or years from now. Don't hold on to something that is not meant to be.
If he's the guy for you, everything will work itself out. If he's not the guy for you, someone else is. How exciting is that?
2006-10-24 13:05:19 · answer #2 · answered by loves2fly84095 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The time that couples need apart is totally unique to each couple. If four days seems like too long for you at this stage in the relationship, talk to him about it. Good Luck!
2006-10-24 13:02:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
space can be a good thing but you need to find the right place
start dating agine
like a 1 or 2 times a week thing
2006-10-24 13:03:10 · answer #4 · answered by ace_71385 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,did u guys communicate with each other at all throughout this 4 days? It's still OK not to see each other for a few days, as long as u guys still talk to each other at least over the phone... Me n my guy used to only meet once a week but we talked to each other almost every night before we go to sleep... It has helped us alot.. We began to miss each other so much tat we r always planning on wat to do when we meet.. N when we do meet, we always have a great time... So if u guys didn't even talk to each other, it's time to pick the phone n start dialing.... U don't want him to forget tat u even existed u know.
2006-10-24 13:05:20 · answer #5 · answered by SyaKiRa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 days? that dosen't seem healthy... but then again it depends on what he's doing. Space is good, people need to not be so tied down or they go crazy. unless they are insecure and needy. To me 4 days is a long time. Tell him you want to hook up!
2006-10-24 13:02:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe it is good to do things apart like that it is a subject of communication. If you have been apart for 4 days but have been talking every day then everything is fine. Keep the lines of communication open.
2006-10-24 13:01:30 · answer #7 · answered by me2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy will end a relationship. Allowing him some space will make him feel comfortable and believe that you aren't a clingy jealous bit ch.
Hopefully you aren't one, but if you are, pretend your not.
2006-10-24 13:14:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't miss you than its bad and the same goes for you I would like to make it simple ...love is something that is without question and without space ...please don't waste your time thinking about if it should or shouldn't be, in your heart you already know if its pretty much coming to and or if it for life
2006-10-24 13:05:00 · answer #9 · answered by thejerkmann 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 days is not that much time (although it seems like an eternity). Do you have acess to email, or telephone? If so use these medias until you can see your honey again.
2006-10-24 13:01:53 · answer #10 · answered by LondonNubie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋