So, I have asked this question many times because I still can't get over it. My BF left me to see if he could rekindle his ex's love. She came to him and asked him back. He said he still loves me but he needs to see where they will go. I told him I would wait for him and hope that if he doesn't work out, he will remember that we loved each other. He says he can't come back to me because he doesn't deserve me. They went out for 1 1/2 years and broke up several times during that time. Do you think they will work out? And if not, will he come back to me? I don't want to know if I should take him back or not, just if you think he will come back? And also, how long do you think it will take? It's been almost 3 weeks now.
2006-10-24 05:54:58 · 17 answers · asked by nursejuley 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK. You can file this under 'That's easy for ME to say' ... BUT...
You gotta let go of this guy. Whether he comes back or not - and I do think he will. He goes to his Ex because there may be things about her he misses. He'll come back to you perhaps for a while, 'til that gets old again then he'll flit off to some new (or old) flame.
He says he doesn't deserve you - HE'S RIGHT! - Though, honestly, I doubt he believes it. Just an excuse to let you down easy so he can play w/ his old plaything.
My advice, for what it's worth - move on.
2006-10-24 06:03:57 · answer #1 · answered by commish144 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nurse Jules
I hate to tell you this but since its been 3 weeks chances are he is not coming back and he wouldn't have told you I don't deserve you that is his way of copping out and basically telling you move on for I have found someone else and he told you that he wanted to work things out with his ex if he really loved you then he would have stayed with you so pick up the pieces and be strong you deserve to be with a man that will stay with you no matter who comes back into his life
2006-10-24 12:58:55 · answer #2 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He'll come back when she dumps him. He'll come back when there is nothing better on the horizon. He'll come back when he is lonely or horny. He'll come back when he needs something.
He is just using the "don't deserve you" thing because he feels guilty about making you wait around. Don't wait around. Get out there and find a man who won't run off with his ex and make you sit and wait....geeze....life is way too short for that nonsense. You might find someone you like better. But it you sit around and wait on this guy to venture out and decide what HE wants....YOU will never get what YOU want.
2006-10-24 12:59:06 · answer #3 · answered by lucy p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is leaving you to "rekindle his ex's love", then you must assume that it is over between you and him. Even if it doesn't work out between him and his ex, you will still only be second best, the runner up. Time to move on and find someone who will see you as the one and only.
2006-10-24 13:02:34 · answer #4 · answered by sloop_sailor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have answered your question before. I so wish you would get some confidence and not wait for this person who is obviously a complete jerk. He not only left you, he told you by phone, and made the lame excuse that he "does not deserve you". Fact is, though, that is the truth. He does not deserve you. Maybe you should believe that.
2006-10-24 12:57:58 · answer #5 · answered by xovenusxo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he said he doesn't want to be with you anymore. stop doing this to yourself!!! go find someone that won't use you as dishrag. he said he wasn't coming back! do you need a restraining order?? how does he need to spell it out for you?
i'm not saying any of this to be mean. i seriously am not. look, i mourned over a guy. called him for two weeks straight everyday. it took me 6 weeks to finally get the point. and you know what? turns out the man that I was meant to be with....was a close friend of mine. who sat with me the entire time i mourned this other guy. two years late, i am now married to this man and we are expecting a baby boy in January. and i couldn't be happier.
so go...be angry...realize he doesn't deserve you, just like he said (btw, guys only say this because they are cowards). there is someone out there that deserves every bit of you.
2006-10-24 13:03:05 · answer #6 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your his back up do you really want to have a boyfriend who will leave you for another women and come back when things don't pan out. You deserve better than that find someone who likes you and only you.
2006-10-24 12:59:34 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am waiting on the same response from my b/f, we broke up last tuesday, but somehow i feel deep inside that he will come back. All i can say to u is wait and see, dont hound him, dont call him, and dont send him emails. its agony, and in time while ur waiting for him, u may begin to realize that its not ever goin to happen, and then enough time has passed to where it doesnt hurt or bother as much if he comes back.
2006-10-24 22:40:41 · answer #8 · answered by sthernbrunette1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he is not going to come back. "I don't deserve you" is the biggest BS line ever. It translate to, "I want to break up but I'm too guttless to tell you." Sorry for the reality check.
2006-10-24 13:01:05 · answer #9 · answered by eightieschic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might come back.The only guy who broke it off with me wanted me back After I cut my hair really short,changed my attitude from nice shy to dont mess with,and I started talking to another guy.I never took him back though.But if you really want that guy back then try changing something.I think he'll come back.
2006-10-24 13:03:08 · answer #10 · answered by K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋