i just recently dated this very nice girl. she's extremely friendly, yet i feel she was a bit aloof on our first date. i had a tough time breaking the ice 'coz she's quite the silent type and as for me, i was quite shy around her too 'coz i know she does modelling and i feel i'm way out of her league. when we went out with friends, we were the only two who were silent. we sent text messages to each other during dinner (even if were seated beside each other), asking each other if we were comfortable or not. then she asked that i take her home early... i sensed she was bored with my company. so i did take her home, gave her a peck on the cheek by her doorway and headed back to the restaurant where my friends were.
the following day, i sent a text message asking if she wanted to go out. she said she just wants to rest. then i sent two more text messages later that day just to ask if she was alright, and finally to greet her goodnight. unfortunately there was no reply. what should i do?
2006-10-24 05:52:46 · 19 answers · asked by Ricky the Kid 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah it was kinda weird that we were sending each other text messages while we were seated next to each other. but i think none of us could seem to join in the group conversation. she admitted to me at that time that she was sick and wasn't really in the mood, then she apologized for her behavior. i told her that it's completely fine, and offered to take care of her after taking her home... perhaps make her some hot soup or ginger ale for her cough.
2006-10-24 06:02:19 · update #1
I don't know whether she found you boring, but I would have. Your shyness was more than likely interpreted as disinterest, and your actions may have made her feel embarrassed because to others, you appeared to have ignored her. I don't know where a second chance is in this for you, when I think of my own preference, I appreciate a more outgoing man, who is able to begin and contribute to a conversation in confidence.
2006-10-24 06:01:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give it a week and ask her again. If she says no, then forget about her.
If she's interested she'll try to make contact or she'll say something like, "Not tonight but what about next week?"
I suppose if it were me I'd just ask her out right if she wanted me to leave her alone or if she's actually sick. But that's just me.
Plus going on a date with people she doesn't know can be intimidating...Not a great idea for future dates.
2006-10-24 05:55:14 · answer #2 · answered by Corn_Flake 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give her breathing room and go on and date others - if she is interested let her send the next text message.
Let her realize what a great catch she is missing.
Good Luck and Take Care
2006-10-24 05:58:01 · answer #3 · answered by soulful thinker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you need to break away from the texting for one, and second, the want's to rest response sounds like a made up excuse to me. And no response from the last to 2 messages also lead me to conclude that she is probably not interested.
2006-10-24 06:03:48 · answer #4 · answered by Justaguyinaplace 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps she was sleeping when you text her for she tell you that she needed to rest there is nothing wrong you did on your part if she doesn't talk to you by the end of the week move on to the next one good luck 2 U !!
2006-10-24 05:56:24 · answer #5 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you keep texting her or calling her she's going to feel like you are driving her crazy and she'll start to get bugged.
Maybe she has a crush on someone else or isn't ready for a relationship. Just leave her alone for a while.
2006-10-24 06:00:12 · answer #6 · answered by loves2fly84095 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give her time to come out of her shell, but if she seems like she doesn't want to hang out anymore after at least a couple of weeks, then don't bother with her. It's one thing to be shy, but narcissistic is another thing. If she is one of those type of girls who wants to be dramatic, make everything about her, then forget about it. Find someone who will be more compatible, open minded.
2006-10-24 05:59:21 · answer #7 · answered by pumpk713 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have heard it all! You sent each other text messages on a date while you were seated next to eachother? Are you kidding me?
2006-10-24 05:57:56 · answer #8 · answered by sweetie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't contact her for a couple days then ask her out again JUST the two of you. Maybe she was a little intimidated by your friends. If she says no -move on...
2006-10-24 05:58:21 · answer #9 · answered by buk3314 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she has issues and is not a very good communicator. The first date gave you some clues. It does not sound like a good match.
2006-10-24 05:56:56 · answer #10 · answered by united9198 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋