My husband was here this weekend (he is not usually,) and it was fine all weekend. This morning, well I was making breakfast, my grandson came out of his room, looking upset. I asked him what was wrong and he said he was fine. The next thing I know, my husband was ontop of my grandson, screaming at him that I deserved the truth!
I didn't know what to do - I just stood there as my husband hurt my grandson. I tried to call 911 but the phones were disconected. My husband has left and my grandson in his room. What should I do?
2006-10-24 05:36:50 · 11 answers · asked by Lisa X 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would find out immediately what your husband had said to him that made him so upset. Or what your husband had did to your grandson. And what did your husband mean by you deserve the truth? Whatever happened, you need to find out as soon as possible for your grandson's safety. I don't understand why you didn't know the phone was disconnected, your husband may have disconnected the phone on purpose so you couldn't contact 911. Don't let your husband back in the house. Get your phone line checked as soon as you can. You can check the lines yourself to see if they have been pulled out of the wall or cut. If you need to take your grandson to the emergency room to be sure that he is completely ok, then do so. Take a stand now and be sure your grandson is never around your husband again. Even if you need to get a restraining order, this will keep you and your grandson safe. Divorce your husband because if he is like this towards your grandson now, just think what might happen if you are not there to protect your grandson. Verbal abuse can lead to more serious problems. Be careful!
2006-10-24 06:21:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably will loose custody if you don't take measures to provide him a safe environment to live in. I would keep your husband away from your grandson for awhile. Maybe you should go to a hotel or friend's house. Obviously something much deeper is going on here that we don't know about. I would assume this is not the only time your husband has been abusive with your grandson....and I'm sure he has been abusive to you as well, as violence is rarely directed at only one person. Do not be passive about this at all. You certainly need to explain to your husband that this is unacceptable and cannot happen again.
2006-10-24 13:08:27 · answer #2 · answered by iloveeeyore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have an obligation to protect that child. Go get your grandson, take him to somewhere safe, talk to him and find out what is going on. If he won't tell you, you must get help. Get out of the house and don't go back until you are sure the child will be safe there. If you protect the child, you won't lose him. If you stay and ignore what your husband is doing, you will lose him for sure. You cannot allow your grandson to be hurt. Find a social worker and ask for help.
2006-10-24 12:52:52 · answer #3 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not report this episode, you are as guilty of the abuse as your husband. You need to decide what the priorities are in this situation. You also need to think of the message you are sending your grandson when you don't do something about it. As the adult, your absence of action says you agree, or he is not important enough for you to do something about this.
I'm sure there is a lot more to the story than what you have put down in a paragraph, and the right thing is seldom the easy thing. ( I know it's easy for me to answer what the right thing is from miles away at an anonymous computer)
2006-10-24 12:49:03 · answer #4 · answered by tajame 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order to protect your Grandson make a police report because it is the against the law if you stay quiet. You need to make a report only if he is a minor. Or just ask for help at the police station with your Grandson and ask to talk to your Grandson. youth or children they talk better with a police officer better than a fam. member. Also do not let your husband now just do it before it is to late.............
2006-10-24 13:37:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you should have custody of your grandson. You have some serious issues, I mean you are on your computer typing this stupid question while your hurt and upset grandson is in his room. Go to jail with your husband.
2006-10-24 13:54:17 · answer #6 · answered by Sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to a neighbors house and call the police or 911 apparently your husband has anger problems and no patience this could lead to very violent activity towards the child and you get help now before you become an accessory towards abuse and neglect for not trying or not doing anything at all.
2006-10-24 12:47:34 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the child OUT of the house and don't let him near your husband again! If you do, you WILL lose custody of him - is that what you want? Do you want to live with someone that abusive? You need to choose between them. And do it now before the boy is hurt or you'll be in jail.
2006-10-24 12:45:39 · answer #8 · answered by susie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would go in and talk to your grandson to see what he did wrong or didn't do if he was in any harm or harmed in any way i would get him checked out it was not your fault your hubby is an that way u need to talk to the both of them and get the in put
2006-10-24 12:51:10 · answer #9 · answered by mom 2boys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU GO TO YOUR GRANDSON'S ROOM AND HUG AND HOLD HIM, YOU REASSURE HIM THAT THAT WILL NEVER HAPPEN AGAIN!! DON'T LET YOUR JERK HUSBAND BACK IN!! HE CAN'T TREAT CHILDREN THAT WAY!!!!
2006-10-24 12:46:42 · answer #10 · answered by mamaexfour 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋