This seems kinda embarrassing for me to say...But I don't know what is making me do this.
Sometimes when my BF and I make love, after I orgasm, I cry. And I try so hard for him not to see me....So far I have kept it under control that he hasn't noticed. But why would I start to CRY?? I don't get it....It's not normal....And it doesn't happen all the time, just once in awhile. I don't know if it's anxiety or something. I don't know why I do it....I feel like I'm crazy!! Does anyone know what is wrong with me? I feel embarrassed....
2006-10-24 05:36:28 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
i've had this happen on a couple of occasions. Sex isnt just about feeling good and whatnot, You make yourself vulnerable to that person, "become one with him" that sorta thing. And sometimes the love you feel for that person is so strong that you cry. At least thats been my experience. Maybe you've found a keeper, ;) either that or hes donig a damn good job! lol
2006-10-24 05:45:22 · answer #1 · answered by cawfeebeanz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you are saying. About 1 year ago I started doing the same thing--everytime we made love I cried. Only for me it was a deep down sorrowful cry that I couldn't stop from happening. I was diagnosed with depression 6 months before this. I started having flashbacks and strange dreams around the same time. I discovered I had been raped by my unkle when I was 7 years old and had repressed it until then. I am better now but I still have a very difficult time making love to my husband. I love him a lot and I am physically attracted to him but I just can't stop the tears sometimes. This is very distressing for him so our love life is different. I'm not saying this is your situation, only suggesting that there are other reasons why people cry after sex. I have 2 friends that were sexually abused as kids and they do the same thing. I hope you cry for a different reason.
PEACE
2006-10-24 16:36:10 · answer #2 · answered by wild&free 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you have any need to feel embarassed. If it's not because you are in pain then it might be just overwhelming emotion from making love with your partner. I don't do it everytime, but there are times (although I am pregnant and hormones have alot to do with it) that I will do the same thing. I have also heard of friends that will laugh or cry after orgasm, not because of pain or being ticklish just simply because of overwhelming emotion! Don 't be too hard on yourself and if you are in a position where you are making love with your boyfriend then you should be able to talk to him about this seeing as how it does seem to bother you.
2006-10-24 12:41:13 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax...It's totally normal. I've done this occasionally for 20 years and have researched it to death thinking I was weird. It only usually happens when its a particularly intense orgasm and the rush of relief after causes my emotions to let go also.
2006-10-24 12:43:25 · answer #4 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it's happened to me a few times with this guy I dated for a bit. I actually really cared about him he wasn't like a booty call or just a friend with benefits who I didn't care about on an emotional level. Needless to say I suppose I loved this dude (hate using that four letter word) NEway...sometime when we would have a really intense orgasm is when I would cry. It's sort of like a relief thing....Like it was sooooo good I cried. It wasn't a bad cry it was a cry. Dudes don't understand the difference but women do. It's the sort of cry you do when something makes you happy or when you haven't seen someone for a long time.
It's alright your not crazy....just in love. LOL...i suppose they go hand in hand though.
2006-10-24 12:41:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Sweetheart, you are perfectly normal. Don't worry about a thing. As long as you are not experiencing any pain, I wouldn't worry at all. Don't be afraid to show your emotions in front of your boyfriend, if he loves you, and you have an open relationship, talk to him about it and tell him that it has nothing to do with being unhappy, but in fact very happy about the closeness that you share.
2006-10-24 12:49:23 · answer #6 · answered by nanners040477 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's actually physical. You cry because of a build up and then release of natural chemicals in your brain. You're not crazy or anything, it's natural, especially if you have intense feelings for your boyfriend, in other words if you love him!
2006-10-24 12:42:56 · answer #7 · answered by nimo22 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe just some latent expression of emotion?! It is quite possible that you feel so close to this person that you cry out of happiness. Or are you crying out of sadness? Either way, maybe if it is really that big of a problem you can see a professional. Best of luck to you!
2006-10-24 12:38:49 · answer #8 · answered by IrishGuy85 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop being embarrassed! Please! For you, it is a normal reaction to tension release, like crying from happiness!
The problem is that you believe that you must hide it, and be ashamed.
Uhuh. I have had women do weirder things than that, and as long as it is not negative towards me, or violent,
hey, they can do what they do!!!
Explain it to him. Believe me.
Okay?
2006-10-24 12:49:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That happened to me one time. I didn't feel sad, but I was bawling. Couldn't hide it. He said maybe it was like a release or something. We're married now, 10 years.
2006-10-24 12:41:27 · answer #10 · answered by misskenjr 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋